I am 23 years old and I had a 5 year relationship 3 years ago and I can't stop thinking about her as much as I try! We grew up together and we really had love in our relationship! Then for compulsory reasons we had to be in a distance because she had to go for studies in an other country! I remember her feeling devastated when I spoke to her abroad. She felt alone and wanted me there! I always told her that everything will be OK, but I didn't really noticed how bad she felt!

We lasted 1 year in distance, the second year she came back and told me that she kissed someone but I forgived her but she couldn't see me, she felt that she betrayed me by a simple kiss. I begged her for months but she said she was embarrassed.

Well I tried to move on and met another girl. After 2 weeks she came back begging me to accept her back but I didn't because of my ego! She tried many times, and fainted many times as I heard. After some time I broke up with the other girl because I noticed that I didn't feel anything for her. After called my ex and told her that I loved her, but she told me that she tried to move on and she met someone that understood her and had sex with him.

I got furious but the next 2 days I called her and forgave her again! She came back but we both didn't feel well so we both tried to move on separately. I met an other girl which lasted for nearly 2 years but again I couldn't stop thinking my ex so I broke up with her as well.

Last year I had an operation and my ex came every day to see me in secret of everyone, she didn't broke up with the guy she met 2 years ago, and she was asking me why she feels so comfortable and not afraid to speak up with me or if we had a chance for us 2. Told her that she has to do whatever make her happy. She told me that she can't leave her boyfriend because his family love her and she can't hurt them. I told her that she has to think herself being happy and not what the others feel or say for her. She told me she couldn't and she left.

I met another girl now and she is great! She makes me happy and we are together for a year now. But I went abroad for studies and she stayed in my country, so I am alone 3 months now and the last month I can't stop thinking about my ex again!! The why is because I really love her but I don't know what to do! And I don't want to hurt my girlfriend she great with me! Whatever I do I can't stop feeling what I feel about my ex girlfriend.

Oh boy. This is worse than a Meg Ryan movie...

You never seem to be available for each other and you have to stop this. Make up your mind.

You met this girl when you were 15. Now you are 23, you are not a kid anymore. Things change, people change - even though they come back and go.

There must be a reason why you could never make time and space to be together again. Maybe you knew it wouldn't work, maybe you were actually happy with other people, but the result is, you probably created an image of her in your head and you love that image. Bad news is, she's probably far from what you imagine (and same for her.) By the way, "I can't leave my boyfriend because his family loves me and I can't hurt them" is a pathetic way to say "I don't want to be with you right now but I don't want to let you go either - just in case" for me.

Some of these things happen, but mostly, they happen to Meg Ryan... Don't you think it's time to move on?

From what I have heard, she does not want to be with you, she betrayed you, she doesn't want you to move on, she cheated with you, she's not straightforward. Doesn't sound like a girl I want to be with. Move on and stop talking to her. That's how you forget her.

It's simple.. Make a plan, create another image of her in your mind , and MOVE ON! She betrayed you once and you forgave her, she will betray you twice and more ( because you forgave her once) . The thing that Happened in the hospital was so stupid. If she really wants u , she'll do anything just to be with u! Don't rush into relationships so quick, clear up your mind, your not young. If u both get back together, your going to argue a lot about the people you met during your break-up and split again. Reconciliation works very little in so many cases. I personally don't believe in it, it leads to nowhere except to arguing, and messing up your head with bull****.

When you two are sick of playing games you will move on. How long that takes is up to you.

You need to stop being in relationships with anyone and sort yourself out.

I have the same freaking problem, I want to leave far away from her but we do have a kid. Should I just leave? My head is so **** up right now..