Derz this boy I used t goi aht wi and we got on so well we started to fall in love. then we kept having arguments and broke up. I styl love him and he knows it but he says he doesn't want a relationship until he's lost his viginty! So that basically blakmales me into having sex with him because he knows that I've done IT before. he said if you shag me ill get bak with you and I want to but I ddont want him to use me or tek me for advantage so I durnoo what t dooo..! Help pllllleeeeaaaaasssssseeee!loveyaa x

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How old are you?
And I think that you shouldn't have sex with this guy because if he really didn't want to be with you and meant what he is saying then he would be more than happy to wait as long as you wanted and be with you. It seems as if he's using you and thinks he will have a chance because you have done it before.

So what you are chat-saying, which is really, really hard on the eyes and the head, is that, your ex boyfriend will take you back, if you have sex with him. To him, that is a relationship. But what it really is, is a booty call.

If you lower yourself to such a level, and consent to 'shag' him as he says, and allow yourself to be used in such a manner, then you have a few screws loose if you think it will either make for a good relationship, or change him into a better person than he was the first time you dumped him.

You are right that he is blackmailing you, and its working, because you are considering it.

Tell the jerk to get a part time job, save up his money, and hire a hooker.

You are not for sale.

I know you like this dude, but he sounds like an *sshole! If he liked you he woudn't say what he did.

You have to be selfish and put yourself and your feelings above all others. It sounds like you might change your mind about who you are just for this boy... who you won't even remember once a better one comes into the picture.

Why do you think he said he'd come back to you after he lost his virginity?

Put yourself first and know that there are other boys you will get along with so well. You'll fall in love again... don't change your mind about who you are just because someone's opinion isn't the same as yours. There are tons of boys out there that will accept you as you are without saying dumb stuff to you, because clearly the voice in the back of your head is saying he IS trying to take advantage of youuuuu :( right?

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Originally Posted by kerrylea

derz dis boy i used t goi aht wi nd we got on soo well we started to fall in love .,then we kept having arguments and broke up.,i styl love him nd he knows it but he says he doesnt want a relationship untill hes lost his viginty!! soo that basicly blakmales me into having sex with him because he knows that ive done IT before.,he said if you shag me ill get bak with you nd i want to but i ddont want him to use me or tek me for advantage so i durnoo wat t dooo .....!!!!!!!!! help pllllleeeeaaaaasssssseeee!loveyaa x

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