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  • Nov 9, 2010, 09:55 AM
    Danielg20
    How Depression Ended My Relationship...
    Hey I'm a boy 19 years old, and had a fantastic relationship with my girlfriend who is same year as me, we went together to vacation, laughed a lot, much love and much romance. I really gambled everything I had in her, putted all trust in her. She was diagnosed with a "soft Depression" 2 weeks ago but she had depression 1 month before she found out. During that month things started to get worse, she was mainly bad all the time, headache, stomach ache etc... I didn't knew it was so serious until she found out she was depressed. I started to read a lot of Depression and kept me informed of what to do and tried as hard as I could. She lost total interest in sex and she was almost never happy. I kept trying to make her smile, give her presents and say nice and kind words. But then 1 day ago all was kind of good. Until we started to argue about something that didn't really much matter, but she kept giving me hints that it doesn't work anymore... I asked her "what do you mean?" and she said that she can't live with the burden anymore seeing me so unhappy and seeing that her depression was affecting me, plus I was nagging here sometimes about when we were going to have sex again, and I cried so much telling her I really tried hard to make you smile but it never worked. So she said she really needs to get herself back to her feet again. So she broke up with me, witch I saw that she really didn't want to! She was sad about the whole situation saying "I hate myself for this" etc.. I told her that I will never hate her and I'm always here for you. I really love this girl and she everything to me, when she broke up, I was really devastated. She said that she really wanted to be with me and that this was the hardest thing she had ever done etc, and that she LOVES ME!
    Was the last thing she said before she left.
    But here I am, my question:
    Should I wait for her or moove on? Waiting is killing but I know its worth it! You think she will get back to me?
    She even sacrificed ME to get better.

  • Nov 9, 2010, 12:02 PM
    Blondie29
    If you love her you should not let her leave. But there is a saying if you let them go and they never come back then they were never yours in the first place. Try to surprised her with a homemade dinner and just keep smiling. She is probably confused right now and might need time to herself. Just follow your heart.
  • Nov 9, 2010, 12:07 PM
    I wish

    You don't need to put a timeline on how long you want to wait. But you do have to realize that nor matter how long you wait, she may never come back to you.

    Instead of circling a date on the calendar, why not let your heart decide when it's time to move on? Just take this day by day and see how it goes.
  • Nov 9, 2010, 12:14 PM
    Danielg20
    Thank you, I have a good faith that she may come back after she starts to love her self and getting better with her depression her feelings may come back to normal, it's weird she isn't coming back if she still loves me, and really want to be with me.
  • Nov 9, 2010, 01:25 PM
    Blondie29
    Comment on Danielg20's post
    She could have been saying those things because she didn't want to hurt you.

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