I need help with this , I met a guy 8 weeks ago things were great told me he loves me etc etc, then stopped talking to me he's had a lot of stress we spoke everyday via msn, fb, phone calls, texts, his friend died of cancer and a few other things, I tried to ask why he stopped talking to me but he wouldn't message me then he did text me and said he needed time to recover and that he may be in touch and to leave him alone etctec, I love this guy and can't be without him... its been 2 weeks now and we still haven't spoken to each other , he still has me on fb and msn. if he didn't want to know me wouldn't he remove me? What can I do to resolve this upset between us?

His message is very LOUD and CLEAR. Leave him alone until he's done recover. He will find you when he's ready. The ball is on his side of the court right now.

You need to let him have some time to get a grip on what's happened in his life. This most likely has nothing at all to do with you or with anything you've done, so don't think it's something you can fix.

Be patient and give him time to get over the pain.

I'm really interested to find out what happened. Have you started to talk again? It has been a while now. Hope everything has worked out for the best.

You really can't force it :/ Last year I saw the deaths of three friends and believe me, it took a long to time to recover. I needed the time to sort myself out and grasp the gravity of what had happened. It's not that I didn't want to be with other people it's just that I knew that I needed to focus on myself I couldn't do that if I was always around other people. It was a time of deep soul searching and I came out of it with a new direction and perspective on life. It's all a part of the healing process and he'll be the one to make the move because only he will know when it's the right time.

-Drew