Hi Guys,

I need some help/advice here...

background: I have been liking this guy over 2 years. I did not make it know to him however we did go out on 2 dates. After the last date I kind of thought maybe he wasn't the one for me so I have decided to cut it off and move on. Recently my friend has a surgery and he texted me asking how she was and hoping to visit her. He is not even a friend to my friend they are just acquaintance. Two of my bestest friend said he is taking it as an excuse to keep in touch with me again. Two weeks from the last text, I have decided to be more proactive and I texted him. Coincidentally I ll be seeing him at a friend's party so I figured maybe I should keep in touch with him before the party .


Me: Hey! How are you? =) looks like I ll be seeing you at the party next Friday

X: I have been in London!


And that's all to his text... its kind of cold to me =( and he did not even bother asking about me...

How should I reply to his text? Its almost like I feel he doesn't want to converse with me...

I feel like I want to give it one last shot to getting to know him better before I move away COMPLETELY...

Look, you went on two dates with him. He knows you don't hate him, and would go out again. So if he doesn't ask you to go out, he's not interested. Guys don't contact friends of friends in an effort to get back in touch with a girl they have already dated.

If he was really interested, he would text or phone you directly and ask you out.

Move on.

I think he gave himself away during the 1st date.( He said we should hang out again and he texted after the third day of the date, it shows he enjoyed himself during the 1st date rite?) But something happened just before the second date. I accidentally sent him a wrong text and it was a text talking about him in a rude way to my friend, but that is how I normally talk to my friend. My friend saw the text and she told me that it made me sounded like a player and I didn't care about the second date.

And he was clearly affected by the text because soon after that wrong text, all his other messages to me were all so cold...

I am hoping through this last attempt in keeping in touch, I want to clear the air and start all over again.

Yes, if I saw a text talking about me in a rude way from someone I had dated, I would be very slow to date her again. You can either phone him and explain and apologise, or forget about him, you blew it.

You might want to consider that if you sent rude texts about someone who gave you a nice date, you are not a desirable date.

Why don't you just wait until the party and see how it goes in person? Begin with hello and if he seems friendly talk to him? If he doesn't, move on.

But before the party I think I ll need to reply to his text right ? I am not sure how I should continue this conversation... Any ideas ?

I don't see anything wrong with the text. What was he supposed to say? Maybe he was in the middle if something. At least he text you back.
Text him back and tell him you are fine and look forward to seeing him at the party.
This really not that serious. It's not like you two have a relationship.

I texted him back after he told me that he was in London .

Me: Oic you you mentioned it to me before. I was just wondering how you were since we last caught up"

It's been two days and he did not reply . Clearly he is not interested.
Is it going to be pretty awkward when I see him at the party and how should I behave ? Should I even mention About this text message ? Or just pretend nothing happened ?

I feel kind of hurt and embarrassed now .

I texted him back after he told me that he was in London .

Me: Oic you you mentioned it to me before. I was just wondering how you were since we last caught up"

It's been two days and he did not reply . Clearly he is not interested.
Is it going to be pretty awkward when I see him at the party and how should I behave ? Should I even mention About this text message ? Or just pretend nothing happened ?

I feel kind of hurt and embarrassed now .

It will only be awkward if you make it awkward.

Relax. Be polite. Be yourself. Treat him like you would any other acquaintance. Do not bring the texts up. If he does, then talk with him about them. You don't want to seem like you are being pushy, clingy, desperate, accusing, defensive, etc. by bringing up the texts yourself.

If he wants to renew the friendship, let him make the next move. In the meantime, let the past go and move on. There are a lot more males out there who you might like if you gave them a chance. Just be very careful who you send texts to and what you say in those texts.

Agree. Just treat him like anyone else you are friendly with, don't make an issue of it, don't mention dates.

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