Okay I know I am only 16 but me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 6 months and I KNOW ITS LOVE! Its just we have been having a lot of difficulties. I kind of lied to him 2 time but they were over very little things and now he doesn't think I love him. And that I don't care for him. We almost broke up today *tears* this is tooo much pain to have to bare. I can't do it. PLEASE HELP! He wants me to prove I love him but how do I prove to him I love him?

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Originally Posted by _Newlys_Girl_

Okay i know i am only 16 but me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 6 months and I KNOW ITS LOVE! its just we have been having a lot of difficulties. i kinda lied to him 2 time but they were over very little things and now he doesnt think i love him. and that i dont care for him. we almost broke up today *tears* this is tooo much pain to have to bare. i can't do it. PLEASE HELP! he wants me to prove i love him but how do i prove to him i love him?

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May I ask, what did you lie to him about?

The lies may seem little to you, but may not to him..

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Well the first time I only lied to him about having permission by my dad to go to his house. I lied to him and my dad both that night :(( and well the second one really wasn't a lie.

He found an old drawing of mine that had a guys name on it. And he flipped out saying I didn't know you dated nate. And well I guess some of the things I said about nate were stuff I started saying to my boyfriend and now he doesn't know if what we have is real anymore. And he feels like I'm hiding things from him and he feels like maybe I don't love and care for him and that I never did.

So he told me that he wants me to prove my love for him. But I don't know how to? What do I do?

He may be mad, and for good reason, on the first lie, but he is also playing on your guilt, because what happened with other boyfriends is none of his business. If it bothered him then there are better ways to talk to someone than the way he is going about it.

A guy who cares would not have to humiliate you, or force you to do anything but be straight with him in the future, because as you said you lied to be with him (still wrong to lie to dad about it), so you already have proved you care, and if he can't at least give a break, and talk like he has some understanding, then why should you have to jump through hoops, because he is mad. He has flipped things on you now for even small stuff that has happened, before he came intro the picture, and its you who should be wondering if he is real, or not.

Talk and resolve this, or leave him alone, until he gets over himself, but making you do stuff to prove you care, is not real love is it?? Be careful with this guy, and just ask him what he expects of you.

It is not love, it is trust that you have lost. And there is only one way ( if he will even give you a chance now) stop lying, and prove you will be truthful over the next months and years.

Often if we lie, people will not want to keep giving chances, so often it is too little too late.

Another funny thing about love is you never "have to prove it". It just happens. It might be the way you look at the other or it might be the tone in your voice. Its not about "proving" anything. You be there and that's all there is to it.