My girlfriend thinks she's fat. We have been dating a week and she keeps telling me she's fat. She's not fat by all means she's barley 100 pounds. She said if I can convince her she's not fat things will go beter. How do I do that? What do I say?:confused:

Do not convince her. There is nothing you can do to convince. She has an illness. She is skinny you keep telling her and she still thinks she's fat. Do you know what that is a sign of? She needs counseling, she needs therapy.

Joe

Oh one idea, if you are willing to give her some tough love. Tell her that you are willing to let her be on her own until she figures out that she is skinny and once she believes it you will do your best to be friends with her. Sounds sort of wrong in a way but it is wrong for her to try to get you to convince her that she's skinny and if you do then things will go a lot smoother. Sounds like games to me.

Joe

You have only been dating a WEEK, she may just be trying to get attention.

How old are you 2?

How old is she? Could be a good question too.

I agree that she has some issue that you may not be able to solve, nor should you feel responsible to do so. It really sounds like she is just trying to get attention. If she really is skinny, then most likely no body else has told her she is fat... so she is stuck in the idea that all girls have to think they are fat... I don't know what it is or why we tend to think that way... it drives me nuts to hear girls always saying it... And I am a girl!

I guess maybe if you really do want to try in some way, take her to a mirror and have her look at herself and tell her all the things you like about her. Her smile her eyes, her hair, her body... let her look at her and you in the mirror and tell her you like everything about her... this may help give her the attention she wants and reassure her that she looks great.

If her negativity continues, don't let it get you down cause its not your fault. If you have tried and she just still is obsessed about her weight, then there is nothing you can do alone. She either needs to seek professional help, or grow out of it...

Best of Luck

She's 15 I am 14

RED FLAG!! She needs professional help, and until she gets it, this relationship cannot have a good ending. You cannot help her, only suggest to her, to talk to someone, which will likely make her mad. She has a real problem. It will get worse without help.

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Originally Posted by jrk556

shes 15 i am 14

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I'm sure this problem is going to be coming up more and more in society with such "great" skelaton celebrities as Lindsay Lohan, the Olson twins, Nicole Richie and probably a few more I'm not in tune with. Despite the fact the media shoves these images in front of us I have never, NEVER met ONE man who said, "Yeah I love looking at a 80 lb woman whose bones you can see sticking out. Never. NOT ONCE. Guys will take an extremely overweight woman before they'll be attracked to a walking corpse. I wish that message got through to woman. Pass on that message. Also I agree with the others if she believes this at this age, or any age for that matter, then she may need professional help.

There is no maybe, there is no she may need professional help. SHE DOES NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP NOW, Before she ends up in the grave from malnutrution.

Joe