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  • Nov 3, 2010, 09:30 AM
    Nessa08
    Who's is it
    I am 6 weeks pregnant.I am not sure when my last period was I had it on 8/27/10 and on 9/19/10 my cycles are 35.I had sex with my boyfriend on 8/2/10 and had sex with another guy on 9/4/10.I know it sounds bad but please help.I will appreciate your responde.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 09:45 AM
    smoothy

    DNA test after the kid is born is the only sure way to prove who it was. Anything else is taking a wild guess.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 09:46 AM
    Nessa08
    I am confused
    I really need someone to please help me and tell me who would the father be I had sex with my boyfriend August 2,2010 got my period on August 27,2010 it was kind of irregular my cycles are 35.Then I had sex with my Ex September 4,2010 he used condom I saw why boyfriend September 17 not sure if he had sex.I got my period September 19,2010 and it was 5 days and I went to the doctor and they said I was 6 Weeks pregnant.I am stressing out I don't know what to do or say.I hope its my boyfriend's baby.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 09:51 AM
    Nessa08
    Comment on smoothy's post
    Thank u.But it's really stressing me out cause I really don't know what to do.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 09:53 AM
    Wondergirl

    You ask for help, but we can't give you any except to say, get a DNA test done after the baby has been born.

    You have nine months of wondering ahead of you.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 10:02 AM
    smoothy

    As Wondergirl said... there is NO possible way to know which man it was... establishng an actual date of conception is nothing more than an educated guess by the Medical staff. There is enough possible leeway in either direction there is no possible way to know given your time line.


    At least you have DNA testing today... I knew a girl that slept with 7 guys in a few days and didn't know for years which one was the father. This happened before DNA testing.


    Now there may be a shortcut... when they are able to establish the babies blood type, it is possible to include or exclude the possible fathers depending on their blood types... before the child is born. When they test to see if there is a possibility of Downs Syndrome or other major birth defects.

    It MAY be possible to do a DNA test prior to the child's birth... but its outside of my field to knowledge at what point that becomes an option IF it even does.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 10:08 AM
    Nessa08
    Comment on Wondergirl's post
    That's true and its kind of scary cause they both don't know I was messing with them both :(
  • Nov 3, 2010, 10:09 AM
    Nessa08
    Comment on smoothy's post
    I appreciate for your answer and I guess my only choice is to wait 7 more months.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 10:15 AM
    smoothy

    Talk to your OB/GYN. Maybe you won't HAVE to wait that long.

    I do hope you see a doctor before the child is born.

    You aren't unique... and your case is hardly that embarrassing.

    Want to prove that point... ask them about stuff Emergency rooms have pulled out of peoples butts...

    NOTHING can possibly be more embrassing than going to an ER over that.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 02:35 PM
    DoulaLC

    If you became pregnant from the sex with boyfriend on August 2, you would be farther along than 6 weeks. The 6 weeks is going by your last period of Sept. 19... which is standard to do. Did the doctor do a pelvic exam? They would have been able to tell if you were farther along. At some point you will likely have an ultrasound done and this may narrow it down a bit more as they will take measurements on baby.

    When you said the August 27 period was irregular, in what way? Lighter flow... shorter days than your norm? A period on Aug. 27 and than another on Sept. 19 gave you a 23 day cycle.
    Was the period on Sept. 19 a normal period for you?

    As smoothy said, you can have testing done before baby is born, but you will still need to include the potential fathers.
    Once you get an ultasound done, and find out the stage of development the baby is at, you may get a better idea just from that alone.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 03:07 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    People are trying to help, the issue is that there is no crystal ball that will prove anything until the child is born and you have a DNA test done.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 04:38 PM
    Nessa08
    Comment on DoulaLC's post
    No he hasn't done a pelvic exam.On August 27 it was irregular because before that my period was on July 9-16 and I got it till August 27 and went away on September 3 and then I had sex on September 4 with my Ex which am thinkn I could be pregnant by.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 04:39 PM
    Nessa08
    Comment on DoulaLC's post
    But am not sure then I got it on September 19 which it was light and not normal than my usual periods.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 04:43 PM
    Nessa08
    Comment on smoothy's post
    I will be going and I am going to ask then because this is a big stress in my back that is always in my mind.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 04:52 PM
    DoulaLC

    Let your doctor know that you are concerned about when you might actually have gotten pregnant, that your last period was lighter than usual, and that you would like an ultrasound done to get a better idea for pregnancy dates.

    Sex on August 2 and September 4 are far enough apart that it will be evident how far along the pregnancy is by baby's development.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 04:57 PM
    Nessa08
    Comment on DoulaLC's post

    I surely will notify him.But my period ended September 3 and I had sex the 4th so there can't b a possibility can there?
  • Nov 3, 2010, 04:57 PM
    Nessa08
    Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
    Thank u very much
  • Nov 3, 2010, 05:30 PM
    DoulaLC

    >>>>>But my period ended September 3 and I had sex the 4th so there can't b a possibility can there?


    It's possible if you happen to ovulate early. Some women do naturally, sometimes it may happen as a one off from your norm.
  • Nov 3, 2010, 08:09 PM
    Nessa08
    Comment on DoulaLC's post
    Well I hope I didn't ovulate the 4th or else am screwd

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