Hi! I just got through reading this and WOW! I am going through the same thing right now. It first started with a girl in England then Australia then Oregon and the most recent was Maine. It is getting closer. I picked up the HOUSE phone and heard him tell this Maine chick he loved her. All of these women have several things in common. Facebook, older (the first one was younger) and have these tragic stories, abuse, miscarriages, buried a child you name it they have lived it. He feels the need to rescue them. I was blindsided too by him telling me last Sept. that he didn't love me anymore. We are a little better I thought the communications had stopped but in my gut I don't think so. I think he has a pay as you go phone in his work truck that he communicates on. I know his pass words and the cell phones are on a friends and family with our bro in law so he is monitered with that. But I start to trust him and then something comes up and the trust wall gets knocked down again. Any input PLEASE! Thanks

Hi Kiki,

I am a very proponent of saving a marriage. That said please understand that it takes a awful lot to get me to the position of letting go.

With the little information you have given I see no redeeming value in your continuing this farce of a marriage.

As a married (very married) guy, I can tell you that his behavior tells me he does not care about you.

I have been married almost 47 years now and never have I considered another woman (other than fantasy). To do so would hurt my Lady and she just does not deserve that kind of pain.

You just don't hurt someone you love!

Also, this post is from 2009. I am going to ask that it is opened as a new post so that others will see it and assist you.