I have a septate hymen and it took awhile to use tampons cause I had to move it to the side to insert them. But I just started having sex, and the first time I bleed a lot, and I was sure I felt my hymen break, but it dousnt hurt to check yourself down their, I was curious and took a mirror andlooked down their, I was surprised to see my hymen was still their!! But one side of it was stretched out and the other side was small obviously... It's bothering me it's still their and it's going to be in the way, and I'm very embarresed to ask my mom about it, she thinks I'm a virgin, if surgrey is possile how much is it and could I get it done without her knowing? It's not something I talk to my mom about... I just really need help