Every time me and my girlfriend have sex she get this feeling that her orgasm is coming but she can't let it go. She says it makes her feel like she has to pee. So what can be the problem.

Time to move away from the "comfort zone"...

Can she get herself off? Can she reach orgasm manually?

Also... do you have a "safe place" for sex? Meaning that you are secure in your space, no rush, no interruptions, etc..

How old are you? How old is she?

She never tried masturbation before, and yeah we don't have to worry about any distractions.

How old are you? How old is she? It helps us understand the situation.

18

Does she feel that way when you give her oral?

How can she tell you what she wants or how to please her, if she has no idea what she likes or wants.

Yeah... she feel that way to both oral and penetration

18

A woman who doesn't masturbate might severely hinder her ability to understand her own body. Or might be lying. There is no one recipe for success here... but I'd like to know if she could get off with self stim. Or, as mentioned, oral... though again there is no one perfect way and the more the woman knows what she needs (which comes with experimentation and experience and sometimes education) the greater the chance shell get to orgasm.

So... why doesn't she have a vibe? Or two?

Doesn't have a interest in getting one

I agree with Kp and Chuck...

If she has never masturbated before and doesn't know how to please herself, then how will you know what pleases her?

If she wants to set up an account and come on here and ask how to masturbate, I'll give her guidance on how to achieve an orgasm.

Have you asked her why she doesn't masturbate?

I believe that everyone should know and understand how and what they like before hand.

Or else how are you supposed to please her.

It almost sounds like she is too tense and needs to try to relax and enjoy.

Do you also have four play before sex? (massage, kiss, caress, hold each other, etc... ) It's more then just sex. It's about a connection.

OK. Well. Come back in five or ten years when the same problem is happening and maybe shell buy a clue.

Great sex starts in your head. Part of that comes from confidence in knowing you can mentally release and be in the moment. Part of that comes from knowing your body. Part of that comes from touching your body.

She is 18. Orgasms come easily to some. Some never get them. Never.

So... at some point this will get frustrating enough and she'll try other routes. Different foreplay. Self stim. Different rituals.

A machine with batteries isn't the end all be all answer to all problems with orgasms... but its sure as hell not a bad place to start. Or forget that... a wet finger after a hot bath.

k. So tell her to let go. If she pees, she pees. You don't care.

Tell her the clitoris is right there next to the urethra. It can be confusing. The bladder can get pressured. And lets not get started on the female ejaculation debate.

Tell her to not hold back. To be in that moment when she chooses to just let go.

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k. so tell her to let go. if she pees, she pees. you dont care.

tell her the clitoris is right there next to the urethra. it can be confusing. the bladder can get pressured. and lets not get started on the female ejaculation debate.

tell her to not hold back. to be in that moment when she chooses to just let go.

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Lol

Or why not have her urinate before any play..

Or both. Empty the bladder completely and tell her just to not fret and to let go.

One woman who came with the same problem said she would hit that point of pressure, stop, go into the bathroom, come back, restart, and was able to hit orgasm.

Was it a mental reset? Physical reset? Does it matter? For that woman, she'd found what worked. It might not be the stuff of romance novels, but a relentless desire to not accept no can sometimes do the job... and, in my opinion, is sexy as sin.

Yeah we have foreplay she just never tried masturbation

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Originally Posted by kp2171

or both. empty the bladder completely and tell her just to not fret and to let go.

one woman who came with the same problem said she would hit that point of pressure, stop, go into the bathroom, come back, restart, and was able to hit orgasm.

was it a mental reset? physical reset? does it matter? for that woman, she'd found what worked. it might not be the stuff of romance novels, but a relentless desire to not accept no can sometimes do the job... and, in my opinion, is sexy as sin.

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In my personal experience, when I have had to go to the bathroom, I would, then come back and proceed.

The way I see it, is, no no, you're going to finish the job!

Bruce,

I really believe that this all has to start with her.

It's like the blind leading the blind.

SHE has to find out what she likes before you can do it for her.

Does this make sense?