All right, I need some help. I am a sophomore in High School and there's this girl that I really, really, reaaaally like, to an extent of "in love" I want to say. I'm not completely sure because I thought I fell in love before, and it was just me thinking very crudely (back in middle school, different story).

Anyway, back to the main point. I want to get romantically involved with this girl, but there are some "problems." I met her in Freshmen year and started liking her around the middle of the year, and APPARENTLY she said she used to like me to a certain point the first time she met me. But, I never made a move, because she was really into a guy at our school (who would kid around to certain points of very high annoyance.) Although, the summer that year, she had to move to Florida (which made me very sad, obviously.) Although, I still kept in touch with her. We talked, and still do, over Facebook/Texting. Over time, we just talked more and more and more, to every single day. And we've grown close.

Over time, she's also moved to Texas and then Nevada. During her time of about, a month in Texas, she really liked this guy (who was apparently, sweet, athletic, and all around perfect.. . yeah, the word "jealousy" didn't even describe it.) They had a really good relationship and she said it was really good. But she had to move because of her Father (her mom and dad have somewhat on/off marriages) so he wanted to get back together with her.. . in Nevada. She did NOT like the breakup at all, or the move. I still talked to her and helped during this.

What I want to do now, is just get her to feel the way I do. I really, really care for her, and she's been through a lot. We say "I love you" to each other a lot and compliment and comfort each other many times over (I used to have depression/cutting thing.. . yeaaah, never exactly told anyone, AT ALL, but her and my sister.) I believe she knows I like her, because well, I sort of TOLD HER, so yeah. All I want to do is try to get into a relationship, but once she's back in state. Any help to see how I can win her heart when she comes back?

When she comes back to your state ask her out, but until then do your thing, as she is doing, and enjoy yourself. Then maybe you won't be so hung up by something that's so far out of your reach. I think she sees you as a friend because, she seems quite comfortable telling you of her boyfriends, so its quite obvious she isn't feeling the same kind of love that you are, but you never know without trying.

Good luck.

Would it be okay to head to her state and see her? We talk about it all the time and she says she would love to see me sometime, and I was planing on taking a Charter Bus, or something of the such, to see her.

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Would it be okay to head to her state and see her? We talk about it all the time and she says she would love to see me sometime, and I was planing on taking a Charter Bus, or something of the such, to see her.

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As long as you have your parents' permission and the girl has approved of your coming to see her (and you can afford it), why not? Of course, you will have to make arrangements as to where you will stay and what you will eat and how you will get around. Those, to me, seem like the biggest hurdles. I wouldn't expect the girl and her family to provide for me and be my wheels while I'm there. And how long would you stay? Seem to be a lot of unanswered questions at this point.

By the way, a chartered bus is one that is hired by a school or church or organization for a specific reason, such as a field trip to a museum or a zoo. You would take a commercial bus such as Greyhound.

True, true, I see your point here. I've been trying to get a job but, the economy, you know? I was planning on taking a trip down to there with my friends (they go to Las Vegas, I get a hotel near her). Guess I better start saving up! Thank you!

In my opinion, be yourself, if she has liked you before for being yourself she can like you again just the same. If you want to win her heart, then I think you should be yourself and just try and spend a lot of time with her and show her that you would be great for her and that you care.

I think if she is feeling OK about the breakup and the hole family thing. Then you should go ahead, ask her out and be yourself just like what imperfection told u
Hope that kind of helps... good luck
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Sorry bro, but it seems to me that you have friend-zoned yourself already. Saying "I love you" without romantic attachment and "helping" her get through a break-up of some other guy are classic friend-zone mistakes. She just sees you as a good guy and a caring friend which means she cannot date you because she runs the risk of hurting you.

Save your money, don't go to see her, you'll just reaffirm your friend-zone status. Keep your distance from her. I recommend that while she's out of state, you don't even stay in touch with her. She'll wonder why you're being so aloof, but she will probably figure you have bigger and better things to do, which is a good thing. And then, when she comes back, you can try again but act differently. Think of it like hitting the reset button.

I'm speaking the truth, for what you want, this is the best course of action.

Yeah, I see your point. I usually do this a lot, without my own knowing. I'm just one of those nice guys you know? But yes, I see where you're at.