Hey so I had a boyfriend for one year and a half I'm in Doha he's in Lebanon.. he cheated on me... We broke up like 9 months ago.. he's still on my mind... I want to make a revange! He broke up with her and went to another girl... he's still with her... I really am going crazy! Help please

9 months is a long time to waste being mad at a low life cheater. The best revenge would be to be happy with what you are doing, and let him fall on his face.

Yes, at this point after 9 months I would say you seriously need professional therapy. You are obsessed,

There is no revenge, except to do what he is doing, move on, find someone, and live a happy life.

Revenge is never the answer and to be honest I do not exactly know where those countries are. (Lebanon is somewhere around Syria right?) but I suggest seeing other people. Date around. If there's that much distance between you two then why and how are you keeping tabs on him? You shouldn't be. He moved on, obviously, so you should as well. Forget him.

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Thank you so much :) I think you're all right

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Thanks :) It was hard to forget him because he was my first love! :( I'm a little bit sensitive..

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I know you're right :( but its difficult :( I know that she doesn't love him... and same to him! I just want him to want me and miss me like I did.. I cryied for 2 months after the brake up! And by the way.. Lebanon is next to syria :)

Christella

A lot of us have also experience this same type of situation. Its something we have no control over, yet it completely distroys our lifes at the time of occurrence.
Yes, some of us even think about revenge, even if its just a passing thought. But bottom line, revenge isn't the answer, because it will NEVER replace the hurt,pain, and heart break that his cheating caused. It has been a 1.5 yrs for my break up and he didn't cheat, but it really doesn't matter, heart break to someone is no more or no less then to another person (if that makes sense).

The other post are giving great advice. It took awhile to really get on with my life, mostly because I was allowing him to continue to email, so he still had me hooked. But I stopped that. Now, I have gotten out and meet some nice men, no I am not ready for full relationship yet, but I will be...

Don't waste anymore time of this loser, move on don't let him have anymore control over your life--good luck

Thanks for everyone! You really helped me!
He talked to me yesterdat by the way... And he was like:" do you miss me??" and " I dont love my actual girlfriend, but when I felt lonely after my break up witth the other girl, i decided to be with her because she understands me...!!"
I feel that he loves me... how can I make him miss me more & more?
By the way.. I'm sorry guys my english isn't very good...

You deserve better. Never settle for less. Never talk to him again.

Are you crazy? He has cheated and has another on a string and you still allow him to talk to you and fill your head with gobble-de-goop?? That's insane, and he is but playing on your foolish false hope. That's how he keeps YOU on his string because he knows you want him back.

Get some common sense as we all know its hard to do the right thing for yourself, when your heart is screaming for him back. Your heart is stupid for him, so THINK, and cut him from your life and NOT do what's so easy, be his fool yet again.

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Originally Posted by Christella0

Thanks for everyone!! You really helped me!!
He talked to me yesterdat by the way...And he was like:" do you miss me??" and " I dont love my actual girlfriend, but when I felt lonely after my break up witth the other girl, i decided to be with her because she understands me...!!"
I feel that he loves me...how can I make him miss me more & more??
By the way..I'm sorry guys my english isn't very good...

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What makes you think he won't cheat on you again? Because he tells you that he won't? Well, he has already proved he is a liar and cheat. Why would you want him back? Haven't you been hurt enough already?

Be smart, and end all communication with him. Tell him you are no longer interested. In time, that is what you will truly feel.

Do not let yourself be sweet talked into thinking he really cares about you. If he did, he wouldn't have cheated on you in the first place.

You are lucky in that you are free to be able to find a new relationship with someone who you can respect and trust.

He's still with her :S but I really love him and I know he loves me! :She's just living far... And... I don't want to have any relationships:S I've tried but it's impossible..!

Actually... I really love him :S he's my first love.. And I know he loves me...
Since 9 months I've been trying to forget him... it's kind of IMPOSSIBLE! :S
He wants to talk to me,I tell him I don't want to... then after 1 month.. he comes back!

I just hope I could stop talking to him