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  • Oct 28, 2010, 05:41 AM
    Pinklover96
    I like my ex boyfriend still, but I'm going out with his best friend!
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    Well my ex boyfriend and I were together for a while, but one of my boy mates got between us, with the threats of saying I won't talk to you ever again, if you don't break up! I realised now what a huge mistake I made by breaking up with my ex boyfriend.

    But a couple of weeks ago, I started liking his best friend, I know this sounds bad but it had been 6 months since we broke up, but anyway we started talking and hanging out and he asked me out, so I've been with him only 2 weeks, and I already don't want to see him and can't be bothered to answer his texts, and I can't stop thinking about my ex, who actually is really annoyed at his best friend and me for going out, so he told my boyfriend he still likes me, which made me feel bad, but now if I break up with my boyfriend it will look like I've been using him! Which I haven't because I truly did like him. I just really don't know what to do!
  • Oct 28, 2010, 06:02 AM
    Devorameira

    If you like your ex, dating his best friend won't exactly get him back.

    Can you provide some additional details about both of the relationships, reason for the breakup, and why you started dating his friend.

    Also, is there a specific question you wanted answers for?
  • Oct 28, 2010, 09:29 AM
    talaniman
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    QUOTE by Pinklover96;
    Well my ex boyfriend and I were together for a while, but one of my boy mates got between us, with the threats of saying I won't talk to you ever again, if you don't break up! I realized now what a huge mistake I made by breaking up with my ex boyfriend.
    So you let a friend that was outside the relationship, break up the relationship? That's pretty bad don't you think?
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    But a couple of weeks ago, I started liking his best friend, I know this sounds bad but it had been 6 months since we broke up, but anyway we started talking and hanging out and he asked me out, so I've been with him only 2 weeks,
    In those 6 months did you talk to him about getting back together and get rid of this so called boy mate? Must not have worked so you got with HIS best friend? That's pretty screwed up too.
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    I already don't want to see him and can't be bothered to answer his texts, and I can't stop thinking about my ex, who actually is really annoyed at his best friend and me for going out,
    So what the freak are you with him for?
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    so he told my boyfriend he still likes me, which made me feel bad, but now if I break up with my boyfriend it will look like I've been using him! Which I haven't because I truly did like him. I just really don't know what to do!
    Nothing in your post says you are happy with his best friend, or NOT using him, matter of fact, it seems like you just want someone and he was available, since the original guy didn't want you back, and it seems now that his friend has you, he does want you back.

    How old are you, as this has grade school games, and drama written all over it. You are caught in the middle of two guys competing with each other, and you don't need either of them. Are they the only two guys at your school or what??

    Don't allow yourself to be passed around by guys that are that close, and be used in a tug of war between them.
  • Oct 28, 2010, 02:34 PM
    dhuber
    Breaking up with someone after 2 weeks doesn't mean you were using them. It just took you that long to figure out of you liked him. As far as your boyfrend, you two need to talk and figure out what your future really holds. I know his friend may be a problem but you were not together and it didn't work out The two of your should be able to work this out. Be kind though and tell the friend up front that it isn't working out. You really don't have any control on how weoll he takes the news. Dodging him is not the way to do it. Call your boyfriend and talk. The two of you could make up and put this behind you. If not there are plenty of guys looking for loyal girlfriends

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