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  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:21 PM
    bballe_01
    I had sex for the first time
    Okay well I'm 16years old and me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time on October 24. It was both of our first times having sex. We used protection. He said he pulled out before he came but he isn't sure and said he still wants me to take a pregnancy test. I don't get my period again until the 10th of November next month. Is there ways to see if I'm pregnant this early? Its barely been 2 days but I won't be able to see if I miss my period till next month and want to know now. Is it possible to be pregnant if the condom didn't rip and he said he pulled out before? Isn't there pre-ejaculation or something? I don't regret doing it but please help me please.. im scared :(
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:27 PM
    Alty

    There's always a chance of pregnancy when you have sex, even with a condom, and even if he pulls out. There are people on this site that have gotten pregnant using three different forms of birth control, it happens.

    There's really no way for you to find out this early if you're pregnant. You'll have to wait until your period is due. If you miss it than take a home pregnancy test using first morning urine.

    Here comes the lecture. If you're not ready to be a mother, you're not ready to have sex. Are you willing to go through this every month, hoping that you didn't get pregnant this time?
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:28 PM
    smoothy

    Did he or did he NOT use a condom. Withdrawl is NOT a form of birth Control.
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:29 PM
    Enigma1999
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bballe_01 View Post
    okay well i'm 16years old and me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time on october 24. it was both of our first times having sex. we used protection. he said he pulled out before he came but he isnt sure and said he still wants me to take a pregnancy test. i dont get my period again until the 10th of november next month. is there ways to see if im pregnant this early? its barely been 2 days but i wont be able to see if i miss my period till next month and want to know now. is it possible to be pregnant if the condom didnt rip and he said he pulled out before? isnt there pre-ejaculation or something? i dont regret doing it but please help me please..im scared :(



    There is always a possibility that you can get pregnant.

    Condoms are not 100%.

    It is to early to tell if you are pregnant. Wait 5 days before you are supposed to have your period, then take a hpt.

    You guys are to young to be having sex. You should wait until you are ready to take on a baby financially...

    There, I just had to say it.
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:30 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by smoothy View Post
    Did he or did he NOT use a condom. Withdrawl is NOT a form of birth Control.

    It really isn't. Even with a condom and withdrawal pregnancy is possible.
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:32 PM
    Enigma1999
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    There's always a chance of pregnancy when you have sex, even with a condom, and even if he pulls out. There are people on this site that have gotten pregnant using three different forms of birth control, it happens.

    There's really no way for you to find out this early if you're pregnant. You'll have to wait until your period is due. If you miss it than take a home pregnancy test using first morning urine.

    Here comes the lecture. If you're not ready to be a mother, you're not ready to have sex. Are you willing to go through this every month, hoping that you didn't get pregnant this time?



    Alty, you are too cute. ;)

    Great minds think alike. You and I must have been typing out our answers at the sam exact time, because we said pretty much the same thing.

    Oh and to the OP, I DID get pregnant using protection. However, I am a older than you and I can financially take care of this child, where as you at 16, I highly doubt.

    Play smart.
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:41 PM
    bballe_01
    Comment on Altenweg's post
    I know I'm not ready to be a mom.. but it happened so fast & believe me my mom would be very upset and mad if she found out because she raised me well. But I did it and there's no taking it back. He has a condom on said it didn't rip, and he pulled out.
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:41 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Yes please clarify as to what type off protection,
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:41 PM
    bballe_01
    Comment on Altenweg's post
    But he is just very paranoid. So that's why I was asking. And I've been getting cramps, is that normal?
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:43 PM
    bballe_01
    Comment on smoothy's post
    He said he did, that it didn't rip.. I think he is just very paranoid because it was his first time? But I don't know why he would be worried if he said he didn't come in me?
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:45 PM
    Alty

    Cramps happen. It could be because you just had sex, it could be because you're PMSing, it could be because you had burritos for lunch. ;)

    The bottom line is this, we can't tell you if you're pregnant, and it's way too early to test. It is a possibility every time you have sex, protection or no protection. Now you get to play the waiting game. That's really your only option.

    I wish you all the best and I hope you keep us posted.
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:45 PM
    bballe_01
    Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
    He used a trojan condom.
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:47 PM
    Enigma1999

    He as well as you are worried because you both know you're not ready to be parents and play house.

    Take this as a sign and stop having sex.

    Focus on your studies and school.

    There will be plenty of time in the future for that...
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:48 PM
    bballe_01
    Comment on Altenweg's post
    Ha burritos for lunch :)
    Okay, well thank you this was very helpful because I haven't told ANYONE yet.
    Oh and one more thing, is it normal to feel very very tired and sleep long periods after sex?
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:50 PM
    bballe_01
    Comment on Enigma1999's post
    That's what I thought.. it really scared him.. but he was the one that kept saying he wanted to have sex for months n months.. maybe now he learned his lesson.. thnx
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:51 PM
    ScottGem

    First, please don't use the comments feature to post follow-up. Use the Answer options instead.

    Second, you both sound extremely scared of your getting pregnant. Yet that fear didn't stop you. And, he obviously planned this since he had a condom ready.

    No you can't take it back, but you can learn from the fear you now feel to not repeat it.
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:56 PM
    bballe_01
    Okay well I didn't know how to answer back so I out a comment? I just joined sooo SORRY.
    &well we were at his house. So he had some its not like he knew he was going to get sex from me so yeah.
    &well yeah but he's scaring the hell out of me.. like wouldn't I be able to feel if he came inside me?
  • Oct 26, 2010, 04:56 PM
    bballe_01
    Comment on bballe_01's post
    *put
  • Oct 26, 2010, 05:00 PM
    smoothy

    He was probibly worried because he was actually listening in Health Class. And you HAVE to know you CAN actually get pregnant while using Condoms, Spremacide cream AND the Pill. Think I'm kidding you? A site Supermoderator Synnen she got pregnant using all three at once... and has said so on the site multiple times. And there are several others here that had children while using multiple forms of birth control.

    I'm serious... the ONLY 100% effective way is don't do it.


    Then there are STD's. People lie about what they have done... if they have done it and with whom far more often than you will believe.

    Herpes is the gift that keeps giving... there is no cure as just ONE example... and its epidemic in the young. Then there is HPV that can cause cervicle cancer.
  • Oct 26, 2010, 05:01 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bballe_01 View Post
    wouldnt i be able to feel if he came inside me?

    You said he was wearing a condom. In that case you wouldn't feel a flood of semen, although you would feel his orgasm.

    "Pulling out" (with or without a condom) is not birth control.

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