Is it possible to change your personality for the better?

I can get very upset over just about nothing but at the same time cool off just as quickly. - No I am not a nut-case and yes I had a very traumatic past - but I have done a lot of work on myself. I would just like to be able to let the man in my life love me and get to know the person I really am. I do tend to put barriers around me.

Have you ever thought about counseling?

I have been and am much better, but at times things are just too much, or to close

You give all the signs of someone who can: you acknowledge your behavior, your past, and the work you have done so far. You are asking. You described yourself very well in a few words. That sounds like a good recipe to me, even if it's a lifelong effort. The trick for all of us is to not try to be a completely different person (impossible) but to incorporate what you are into a new blend that you can accept and others can too. If you tend to keep those who love you at a distance, it's possible to explain this need and arrange special times for letting them in. You could, for instance, have a small room or part of the house that is just for you. Nothing 'wrong' with you, just who you are. Good luck.

The first step to changing is admitting that you need to change. It's possible as long as that's what you really want. If you want something badly enough, you'll go for it.

However, I don't know if you can expect instant results overnight, it's a slow and steady process.

Lastly, change occurs naturally, you can't just force yourself to change. It will change naturally as you understand yourself better so that you know exactly what it is you want to change. I suggest you take the time to learn more about yourself and discover why you feel a certain way about certain things.

Thank you all very much!

Sure you can. In my experience I have found that most people who are set off easily have anger and fear just below the surface. So anger comes out quickly and easily. You can quickly release (not express) negative emotions using meridian tapping or EFT (emotional freedom technique). You can learn more about it by googling or you can learn the process on my website. We do not have to be victim to our emotions and emotions are not your personality. You can even tap out fear of intimacy.

Blessings

We all change
Whether you change for the better or worse depends on what information you feed yourself.
And you have to want to change for the better. We all want to lose weight, but it is clear we would rather just eat what we like and live on the lounge.

Do you really want to change for the better, or is it easier to throw a tantrum?

Act different, and eventually that 'act' will become your real reaction.