This is kind of cheesey but okey there's this dude I know who is a pretty good friend already has a girl but later says he's falling for another one and his current one (althought at times he falls in and out of love) has been goig strong for some time now and he's been talking to me about it every so often and he's been in a time like this before however he has always found away to stay with his limits and just be friends with the other girl... this case on the other hand, he has decided to go against my advice to pic either to have a break up or stay with the girl he is with and crossed the line waaaaaaaaaay too far he even asked the other girl to have sex with him (she rejected it of course but still dude)! They have only gone as far as a kiss. I know the two girls well and I have a feeling this can only get worse before it gets any better both of them have gone through a lot of **** and attempted suicide at a point one of them ( not the gf) was homeless at the time and had to care for her younger brother when she was younger then 14 and has low self esteem, the other (gf), goes through family tourment and very clingy to anything that won't hurt her so a break up or betreyal (did I spell that ryt) would just crush her. After hearing both sides of the story the dude says he loves his girlfriend and the other girl and has hopes of having them both but doesn't want to hurt his girlfriend in the process and also because he doesn't see that either of the relationships would last forever (although I don't think he was thinking to clear when he said that), it would not hurt him in the long run afterwords and he could always find someone else until I told him it would be hard if he was plagued with the rep as a cheeter, where as the girl he's trying to get to says yes they are close but she feels uncomfortable as too how close he is trying to get to her she says she loves him as a brother and wishes he would love her the same way and not go past the boundaries of that friendship she felt so miserable I actually had to stay back with her behind a group of friends to comfort her while she was in tears about the whole thing... I don't know what I should do I usually don't feel as sympathetic about this kind of crap but when I c her it's like looking at a mirror of myself we both share a lot of common boundaries in life and for some reason I gess I can't help but want to do something she even asked her parent's to let me stay in her room so (of cpurse this part was omitted to them) that if he walked to her house at mid night again that she would at least have someone there to be with her... what should I do? :(

I think that you should leave them alone. This is not your responsibility and just let them work their stuff out. It is good that you are trying to be a good friend to all of them, but something in this life are out of your control and this is one of them, so just let them be and they will work things out on their own!

Good Luck,

Javi

There is nothing you can do. This guy is on a high horse thinking he has two girls that want him. But both girls need to realize that when a man is in love it is with ONE WOMAN, one or both should end it with him and cut it off. You can only support the girls, no matter how much they like him. These girls being at his feet is just boosting his ego.

How old is this boy who walking into her house at midnight? How old is she?
If she has told this guy that she only wants to be friends then she needs to tell her parents if he is crossing boundaries, not you. What can you do?
Stay out of this mess.

I wish it were that easy her moms a hippocrit... alll she does is stay in her room and complain and if something goes wrong she pulls the threat of moving she is 16 and he is 15

It is still her mom's house. This guy has no business coming in her house at midnight. I would imagine the mother would not be too pleased about this guy coming into her home that time of night.

She can also call the police if she is serious about not wanting to be bothered with him. That would keep him out.

Trust me mam after what the both of us have been through in and out of the system she has had it worse though and with the place we live in you myt as well take it up where the sun don't shine because that is one step forward and to steps back plus

Her mom claims to have devoted so much time to her and just because she was adopted into there home she should be overly grateful when all her mom really does is sit in her room 24/7 and nag and moan and complain and get this...

With all the complaining her mom does she actually left her disabled son out in the are with a load of masquitoes so no I highly doubt her mother of any support possible and yes I have tried cps before it don't help

What does this have to do with your friend?
If this girl wants to be rid of this guy, it can happen. She must firmly tell him to leave her alone. She does not have to let him in the house.

OK she finally did something I'm a bit relieved about this but now the guy seems a little obsessive on this should I be concerned..

Are you a boy or girl? Are you interested in this girl yourself? If this boy is out of line this is something an adult needs to handle not you.

I'm a boy but now I think she's pretty much doing well trying to avoid him but he won't leave her alone... and the counselors here lets say been there dun that I don't want to put her through what I did this situation seems to made us closer...

But as far as a relationship between us she even said she is afraid of being hurt so I don't want to push or influence her into something that she isn't yet ready for

She does not need a relationship at this point. Be her friend.

That's what I am doing ryt now I just hope she won't kill herself in the process she alread tried overdosing on top of that I'm moving soon too and I'm afraid she'll die when I'm not there :(

If she has tried to overdose, was she hospitalized? That's kind of general procedure. They evaluate her mental state.
If this boy is indeed harassing her there is always going to the police.