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  • Oct 24, 2010, 03:07 AM
    ngonnui
    18/m dated for 6 months, broke up 1 year ago, can't move on, help?
    Start with a little history, me and my ex dated for about 6 months in my senior year in high school. We broke up after homecoming and it has been a year or so. We were our first and everything. She broke the relationship up because there were some up and down with our emotions and feelings , both me and her. Now that I'm starting my new life going to college, I thought my life would change and I would move on. Unfortunately that is not my case, I still think of her and still have a tiny hope of maybe one day to be with her again. I try to change, be happy and such but I usually find myself being down and depress. Help?
  • Oct 24, 2010, 04:13 AM
    preetybanshival
    You really love her, you should talk to her and tell what you felt when she was not with you.I thin in your relationship there is little misunderstanding you can clear it.
  • Oct 24, 2010, 06:59 AM
    talaniman

    If she dumped you then, for whatever reason, why would she want to do it again with you? Your feelings may not be enough to motivate her, and maybe she doesn't miss you, like you miss her. Maybe what you need is more time to work on yourself, so you can move on and be happy, and see better options, and opportunities that may be closer than you think. So don't let old feelings, and old memories distract you from making new ones.
  • Oct 24, 2010, 07:37 AM
    Fr_Chuck

    You start dating, and if you are in any contact with her, stop it, don't look at her Facebook page, And start dating, just to date and go out for a start
  • Oct 24, 2010, 01:11 PM
    mmresd
    Back up and reconsider where you are now. Have you really been trying to get over her, and if you have what was it that you have been doing wrong this whole time. Time is the key to get over someone but apparently you are doing something that is keeping you from allowing time to heal you. Maybe you are thinking about her too much, pick up a job, get involved in your community, work out, or pick up a hobby. Something so that you won't spend time thinking about her. You and me both are in college and we both know how it is here... full of girls and a lot of fun parties to do whatever you want! ENJOY IT!! Your campus is just that YOURS, so go an conquer it man and don't hang yourself over a girl that nowadays probably doesn't even think of you. And although it is painful to believe that a person who you still care for in someway is over you it is more likely than not that you will not be getting together soon, and probably not ever. There are rare cases where people get together again after a long period but those are accidents, not nothing you have control over, so stop worry about stuff that you could have done or about stuff that you have no control over, and start planning your future, how to enjoy it, and how to enjoy your life. Stop filling it with stress over something that was done over a YEAR ago and start living again.

    Good Luck,

    Javi

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