I'm a 15 year old girl and I have major confidence issues. I hate it so much because I constantly nag on myself, always putting myself down. I want to be a confident person but I have no idea how. My friends and family tell me to be confident and I would try to but I really have no idea how. I don't want to be too confident where is gets extremely cocky though. Please help me.

Not to brag but I am naturally very confident... and my brother isn't I helped him become more confident as well... do something that makes you feel proud of yourself, dress up nicely put on make up and if you already do this, start talking to yourself in the mirror and saying to yourself that you can do anything as long as you put your mind to it. Go out with your friends more often and meet new people, life is too short to not take chances

You can learn self confidence through positive reinforcement. That is, every time you have a negative thought about yourself you need to replace it with a positive thought. That is called "cognition"... realizing what you are saying when you are saying it and eliminating self destructive thoughts that reinforce a negative self esteem. Your brain cannot differentiate between your subconcious mind and your conscious mind. If you harbor negative thoughts about yourself, you need to replace those thoughts with positive tloving houghts. You can also do things to make you feel good about yourself. That is by being a good student in school. Helping others. Disassociating yourself with negative influences. Accepting your faults. If you hae a poor attitude towards others, change it by being nicer to people. But it's like an exercise of the mind and when you are proactive in changing your attitudes, thoughts and behaviors, then you will natuarally become more appealing to people and you obtain a "air" about you that nobody can resist. You don't need to seek approval from others to validate your self-worth. Just be yourself and learn how to love yourself in spite of what others think of you. Try to focus on four core values: Honor, Respect, Loyalty and Trust. Be all that you can be in those areas of your life and you will naturally gain self confidence. Feel free to ask me to elaborate on any of this if you are confused.

Everybody has confidence issues at one point in their life. You shouldn't be so hard on yourself , you should accep yourself the way you are no one is perfect and you shouldn't think that by changing your appearance your going to be confident. Confidence comes from the inside this might be hard to undestand but there's nothing wrong with you everybody see's their flaws in them just like you just tell yourself your beautiful and believe it you should listen to the song Beautiful by Christina Aguilera .

This poem is probably how you feel:
I see all these pretty people all around me. They have the perfect body, everything about them seems perfect. But once I look at myself in the mirror I see all these imperfections about me. All these flaws that and one but me can see. They tell me I'm pretty, beautiful and all these things that should make me flattered and love me for who I am but instead they just make me feel worse because what they see in me I can never seem to find in myself and that's what truly hurts the most.

This poem in the bottom is to help you realize that no one is perfect seriously there's nothing wrong with you The first step in having confidence is to accept the way you are stroke your ego a little bit and tell yourself your beautiful because trust everybody is beautiful

Why would anybody call themselves ugly when in my eyes everybody is beautiful in their own special way. What is the definition of beauty anyway? Is it a pretty face? A pretty body? No, its none of those what makes someone truly beautiful is not the outside appearance but their natural beauty and what they carry on the inside. Everybody is beautiful in their own special way but what they shouldn't lose track of is that everybody is beautiful both inside and out. :)

First of all, if you have confidence issues, DO NOT worry about being cocky... because that is the farthest thing from where you are now. By dictionary definition confidence is: "assurance: freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities". So, it is clear what you have to do, if you have to talk to yourself to be confident to reassure yourself that what you are doing is what you want to do and no one can tell you different then DO IT! Do not doubt yourself with whatever you are doing since that is exactly the opposite of what you are looking for, as you walk through life make decisions and try to make the correct ones, and when you believe you found one take a leap of faith and see how things go. Most importantly "belief in yourself and your abilities"; see what things you are good at and improve them, trust yourself, and you will see that as you develop new things and learn and grow you will be in a lot more confident place that what you are in now.

Good Luck,

Javi