I'm in a relationship with my fiancée for about 10 years.We're both 30 years old. However, I believe marriage is not his priority. I've always asked him to love me better, as I don't feel loved at all. He will not call or text me until I do so. And most of the time he will not return my missed call. However, he will do it when it comes to his friends. He doesn't really care about me and each time I brought this up, he will think that I'm picking a fight. All he wants is me to be good to him all the time and even if I was unhappy, I shouldn't get mad. Recently, he was really sick for close to 2 weeks. I took him to see doctor twice, spent time with him until he was admitted to hospital (I wanted to take him to the hospital at first but he refused to go). I couldn't take any leave due to my heavy workload. However, I paid him a visit right after work. I felt bad about it, however, I know he has friends and family to take care of him. I consistently checked on him through text. Throughout these days, never once I felt he will appreciate what I had done for him. Until the day he was discharged, I wanted to drive to his place just to spend time with him. I called him and asked about his condition. As usual, he won't ask me how I'm doing and so on. I felt neglected and I ended up driving back home alone. I texted him at night asking about his condition again. He didn't reply this time. I waited until the next day afternoon and yet he still didn't call or reply my text. I got mad and I was asking myself that why can't he call or text back when he can do it for his friends? I was so mad until I texted him telling him that he doesn't appreciate what I've done for him. And I started to back off knowing that no matter how much I care for him, he will not appreciate. We had a fight over the phone and I was so mad until I said "Don't you think that you're so great even when you're sick!"
Yesterday, we quarelled again and I drove to his place. He was shouting, as usual and he thinks I'm at fault. He said that I didn't care about him and I wasn't there for him from the very first day he was sick. I was surprised because I was the one who took him to see doctor twice when he was having a high fever and I spent time with him until the day he didn't reply my text. He told me that his friends took a cab just to visit him, called him everyday just to check on him. I asked him "What about me since I did check on your condition from time to time?". He turned around and said that I didn't even care about him, I wasn't there for him and he didn't even read my texts when he indeed replied to my all my messages except for the last text. How could he not remember what I've done too? None of the things that I've done he will appreciate. He told me "treat me good and I will treat you good". But when I treated him good, he treated me worse with his ignorance. Our problem in this relationship is his ignorance and he always thinks it's my problem when he doesn't even pay attention or show me love. Will a man not text his woman asking on how she's doing?
What should I do? Is it all my fault?