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She broke up and said she needs some time to herself to think what went wrong and why she kept wanting to pack her bags at every argument we had... She asked if she could keep calling me and I said no, I told her to call me when she wants to get back together. She also askedme to email her a picture of us we took on my birthday... Should I email her the picture and ask how she is doing or just do no contact?
No Contact.
No.
If she needs like she feels space then respect her decision and give her her space. Don't let her play you with this push and pull game that she is exhibiting on you and don't contact her until she is ready to try again because if you do you might push her away from you further.
Why do I feel like if I do no contact, we will both lose interest in each other and feelings will fade away and chances we will get back together with be very slim...
Because there is at least a 50% chance that that will happen... so be ready just in case. It's her call whether to get back with you, but it's a decision only she can make.
What's funny is that my mother was good friends with her and she is telling me that I should send her an e-mail saying I am sorry and feel bad about what happened and tell her that I love her and send her the picture she asked for...
NO. No no no no no.Quote:
Originally Posted by PirandelloLuigi
Don't do it. It's not a bad thing that your mutual interest fades away... since you two BROKE UP. Go NC and stick to it!
Don't contact her at all. You already told her not to contact you unless she wants to get back together, so stick with your guns and ignore any communication she shoots your way. Stand tall and don't be a wimp!
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Your call, but you have asked this question before, so why do you think this is any different from any other break up? If your not ready to let go, that's understandable. But this is what you said,
Has that been resolved, if not leave her alone. Then you told her.Quote:
why she kept wanting to pack her bags at every argument we had...
Has she done that? If not leave her alone.Quote:
She asked if she could keep calling me and I said no, I told her to call me when she wants to get back together
Email the picture, and stay with NC. Stick to what you said. That simple.Quote:
She also asked me to email her a picture of us we took on my birthday... Should I email her the picture and ask how she is doing or just do no contact?
So what, if it fades and not make the heart grow fonder, you had nothing to begin with.Quote:
Originally Posted by PirandelloLuigi
Your mom may like her but does she know everything you know about her, or feel? Who is responsible for your happiness and love life? YOU, or MOM?Quote:
Originally Posted by PirandelloLuigi
Is it bad to say that I love her and miss her in the email with picture?
Why should YOU be sorry? SHE broke up with you!Quote:
Originally Posted by PirandelloLuigi
Don't send the photo. She has given up her right to have it.
So then she can laugh at you and tell your mother what a pushover you are?Quote:
Originally Posted by PirandelloLuigi
The thing is, that I am not sure if it is a break or a break up, she said she loves me and she would like to come back strong without getting urges to pack her bags and leave when we argue.Quote:
Originally Posted by pandead
She said we had a communication problem, chemistry was strong, but sometimes communication needed to be improved.
All the more reason to do No Contact, to see how strong the chemistry really is.Quote:
Originally Posted by PirandelloLuigi
Meanwhile, think about and work on what you did wrong in communication with her. Why did you argue? Did she argue back or cry? Perhaps you would like to start a new thread to ask us how to argue/discuss with a lover but in the right way.
If your mother is friends with her, tell your mother you are going to work on your anger problem and learn how to argue, but do NOT mention your girlfriend's name. Your mother will figure it out and will undoubtedly tell her. That will be the best way to handle this. It will make both of them very curious and interested in what you do next.
Good idea, how to discuss without bailing out and finding solutions or compromises.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Start a new thread now. (This is exciting!)Quote:
Originally Posted by PirandelloLuigi
Hope you're kidding.Quote:
Originally Posted by PirandelloLuigi
I read your old thread too... I know it won't mean anything even if 40 of us tell you not to do it, until you get heartbroken over and over again and end up saying "enough is enough."
NC should be your only solution right now but if what happened until now is NOT enough for you, I don't know if there's any advice that could make you change your mind.
EDIT : Sorry I don't agree with the whole "bad communication" thing. I don't think it's how a couple should handle bad communication.
Amazing how much more info we get when we tell someone to go NC!!
Originally Posted by PirandelloLuigi
Then go cool off not break up. What the heck! Cooler heads communicate better than hot ones. We all leave when we argue, or want to, geez we are mad sometimes but the way a couple agrees to fight is what defines them.Quote:
The thing is, that I am not sure if it is a break or a break up, she said she loves me and she would like to come back strong without getting urges to pack her bags and leave when we argue.
That's something you work on over time, without the impulsive talk, and actions. Please don't start another thread, just as your questions here.Quote:
She said we had a communication problem, chemistry was strong, but sometimes communication needed to be improved.
This is more an over reaction thing I suspect, and if you communicate with her like you do us, you have a lot to learn about honesty.
Yeah your right, because when we argued I told her that maybe it was best she go back to her moms place because I was tired of her wanting to bail out and pack her things. So I pushed it too far by saying this, my anger was too much. She felt like I was kicking her out and I hurt her feelings.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
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