My husband is a control freak. He is easily angered. He blames me for all of his problems and he always pointing out everything I do, and then turns them into arguments. I am tired of living paranoid, he has to go with me everywhere, he don't trust me with anyone, I can't have no friends . He is unemployed and he has this dream of becoming a political Leader, but is doing nothing about it he also is additive to pot .

Get rid of the jerk, and you will lose the dead weight, and dark clouds in your life.

So your husband looks at you like some mangy dog that he feels he needs to teach a lesson to by mistreating you, then complains when you are left alone and you tear up the house. So the guy is forced to follow you everywhere to make sure you don't get into trouble. stay away from people, and blames you for all his failures and shortcomings. He is more than a control freak, he is a dictater. I think a career in politics is perfect for him. He could start with "dog Catcher". You on the other hand don't have to stay in this nitemare of a marriage. You are taking care of him anyway, so if you look at the plus and minus facts of this marriage, the minusis would be 10 to 1. That one plus would be that he does probably wear pants, and looks like a male. But the bad overwhelmingly outweighs the good, so maybe you should stop taking care of this ungrateful, abusive, poor excuse for a man. Get back your life, and be happy again. You don't need him for anything.

Mikalah, is there a question here or are you just ranting?

From your description hubby has the attributes of an abuser. Why would you even consider staying an additional hour, much less another day, with someone like that?