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My name is kristy I live in Ohio. I wanted to know where I could marry a 19 year with out parents permison I am 17. My parents do not want us to be together but we really love each other. There doing whatever they can to stop it. And I just want to be happy and I am. So *** if there is any where *** let me know.
As far as I am aware, all states require 17 year olds to have parental permission to marry. You do understand that if you were to run off with him, he could be looking at criminal charges.
Lawriter - ORC - 2919.23 Interference with custody.
May I ask why you can't wait until you are at least 18 to marry him?Quote:
(A) No person, knowing the person is without privilege to do so or being reckless in that regard, shall entice, take, keep, or harbor a person identified in division (A)(1), (2), or (3) of this section from the parent, guardian, or custodian of the person identified in division (A)(1), (2), or (3) of this section:
(1) A child under the age of eighteen, or a mentally or physically handicapped child under the age of twenty-one;
Why are your parents objecting to the marriage? I am pretty sure it isn't just because they don't want you to be happy.
We been threw so much together. We have ran away together when I was pregnant before. He didn't get introuble but we ended up in jail well me jdc and him jail. They do not like him because of where he comes from and because he's not rich like my parents. We are trying to wait but my parents are trying put a restranin order on him. Which makes it harder but were still sneaking around seeing each other. Its not like were sick of sneaking around its just we want to be able to go out in public together and go out to eat and stuff
You are 17, worry about your Prom Gown, not marriage.
Trust me when I say I do not mean that to sound nasty.
Please wait until you are at least 18.
Trust me I've been threw a lot with this guy and I not just going to throw it all away and let my parents win. Its not going to happen. And prom I did last year now I work and school. I done acting like a little kid I grown up a lot quicker. Yeah people might think its stupid for someone my age to get married but I love this guy and we been threw so much to give up what we have.
Kristy,
Please read your last posting. If you expect us to believe that you are mature enough for marriage than you should be able to write in decent English.
Not that you should require our believing in you.
However, that said, you are 17, what could you possibly been through with this guy that makes you think he's the one for you?
Do you love him or is he now a pawn in a game you are playing with your parents?Quote:
Originally Posted by kristyk6
You say that your parents don't like him because of his financial status. I have noticed that can be a common complaint of teens who don't want to look at what else their parents might object to such as having sex with their minor daughter, getting her pregnant, running away with her, getting her arrested/detained, causing her to break their rules of proper behavior, turning her into a disobedient, child, etc.
Have you actually listened to what your parents are saying or have you closed your mind to their viewpoint because it isn't your own? Would you like for them to listen to you?
If you don't want him back in jail, you better wait a year, as your plan didn't work very well. Running away is not the answer for sure, and you can be as rebellious as you want, when your barefoot in a trailer park somewhere and neither of you can rub two sticks together and produce a piece of bread.
Yes, you wait, you follow the rules at home ( that is what a real adult person does) and you respect their authority.
And no wonder you getting pregnant and running off that they are so against him, ( and his being poor most likely has little to do with it,) most likely it is the attitude that he has taught you and the disrepect for your parents and other adults.
So he got you pregnant. He's lucky he's not in jail for statutory rape! Frankly, I would suspect you are more in love with the forbidden fruit aspect of this rather than any real love.
The way I see it you took up with a boy who took advantage of you and got you pregnant. You then ran away with him defying your parents. These are the actions of an immature person.
If you were truly in love you could wait until you are legal age.
I first would like to say this I am a proud husband of an amazing wife that as of today we have been married for 5 years and not one fight or nothing. We got married when my wife just turned 19 and I was 21. I am also a parent of two awesome kids. I live in the state of Oregon and I believe you can do it here. I would like to point out that you are a 17 year old and he is 19, think a while before you do it. My parents both hate my wife don't know why but they do. What I am trying to say is don't make your life a push to answer life. Meaning don't let others push you to do things that is somewhat reasonable. If you love that person let that be the guide to your future. Once you make that commentment and if it fails you have now made yourself into a punching bag for your parents.
Oregon does not permit marriage under the age of 17, 17 yr olds need parental consent. Please check your facts before giving inaccurate info.Quote:
Originally Posted by jnelson09
I'm glad your marriage has worked, but I question your statement that you haven't fought at all in 5 years, especially having 2 kids. That's actually unhealthy. Its impossible for 2 people to live together without some conflicts. Throw kids into the mix and its impossible for nerves to not get a little frayed.
As others have noted, there are large questions about whether the OP is truly in love or just an immature teen rebelling against her parents.
Even Oregon requires consent:Quote:
Originally Posted by jnelson09
http://www.co.jackson.or.us/files/ma...cense_info.pdf
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Oregon law prohibits the issuance of a marriage license to anyone under 17 years of age. Those 17 years old must have consent before a marriage license can be issued.
I would also like to point out that Federal Laws kick in if you cross state lines with him.Quote:
3. Permission for those 17 years of age:
Applicants seventeen years of age must bring a parent or guardian with them, or have a notarized consent form with them.
You are 17! Why are you so worried about marriage? You have so many things to experience in the next few years and so many of them to come... and I know that you will probably stop reading my comment after reading that, BUT ITS TRUE. Whether you notice it now or in 15 years or 50 years you will look back and see that this is a very big potential mistake... Graduate, get a degree, become stable and independent, and then maybe start thinking about having a serious relationship with someone. Plus, this guy seems to get you into trouble, a guy that loves, respects, and deserves you keeps you safe, not puts you in harms way. Take a step back from this adrenaline filled relationship and reconsider your options... if you think it is worth to make all this trouble to be with someone like that then continue it, if not, then your parents are probably right about this not being the right guy.
Good Luck,
Javi
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