Yet he says he won't answer calls from blocked numbers. What is going on?

Who is he talking to, what does he say is going on ?

You need to investigate thishowever you can. There should be no secrecy in a relationship. Have you confronted your husband on the discrepancy between these 2 situations. I don't like when men try to pretend that they are not doing anything. If you have to be a private investigator in your home then that's what you havee to do. However blocks numbers come from all kind of places including salesman so don't act if you are not very suspecious and unsure

Drop his phone in the toilet! Accidentally of course, if he can't tell you who he is talking to. I assume you have asked.

Yes, my wife would accidentally drop it and accidentally step on it 10 or 12 times If I was doing something like that.

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Drop his phone in the toilet! Accidentally of course, if he can't tell you who he is talking to. I assume you have asked.

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Don't forget to flush.

Let me tell you a little story.. my husband had been faithful to me for thirteen years (or so I thought).. Our son and I went on vacation ( he stayed home to work) while I was gone he accidentally pocket dialed me (I was on the beach in Fla.) So it was my husband and my sister in law (my brothers wife) talking and just chatting it up ( my brother was away on business at the time) anyway... he and she denied anyting but a friendship that they couldn't tell anyone about because they thought no one would understand. My vacation ended very very early.. we come home and surprised my husband.. he was very mad.. you would think he would be glad to see his wife and son, but he was mad, he was all dressed up getting ready to leave and go somewhere.. spoiled his plans he was mad. So we argued... he said nothing was going on. I said OK, let's see how he acts now. After We got home from vacation I checked the phone bill... never had to do that before, but there were 20,000 text messages between sis-n-law and husband.. My brother and I had no idea.. and yes they had an affair and were sleeping together in my bed while I was away! Needless to say that he is no loger in my house.. she and my brother decided to try and work out their marriage (that's a whole other issue I have to deal with) and he is with another woman about 15 years younger than him... he's 39! But guess what? I still have access to the phone records and I found out she is doing the same thing to him that he did to me.. sneaking around talking to another man... all I can tell him when he finds out (because I will never tell) is that you reap what you sew! So yes I learned the hard way... Plus for a little extra bonus he gave me an STD! So If he is acting strange.. investigate, investigate, investigate for your own sake!

Ask him if you can answer it next time?

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Let me tell you a little story..my husband had been faithful to me for thirteen years (or so I thought).. Our son and I went on vacation ( he stayed home to work) while I was gone he accidentally pocket dialed me (I was on the beach in Fla.) So it was my husband and my sister in law (my brothers wife) talking and just chatting it up ( my brother was away on business at the time) anyway...he and she denied anyting but a friendship that they couldn't tell anyone about because they thought no one would understand. My vacation ended very very early..we come home and surprised my husband..he was very mad..you would think he would be glad to see his wife and son, but he was mad, he was all dressed up getting ready to leave and go somewhere..spoiled his plans he was mad. So we argued...he said nothing was going on. I said ok, let's see how he acts now. After We got home from vacation I checked the phone bill...never had to do that before, but there were 20,000 text messages between sis-n-law and husband..My brother and I had no idea..and yes they had an affair and were sleeping together in my bed while I was away! Needless to say that he is no loger in my house..she and my brother decided to try and work out their marriage (that's a whole other issue I have to deal with) and he is with another woman about 15 years younger than him...he's 39! But guess what? I still have access to the phone records and I found out she is doing the same thing to him that he did to me..sneaking around talking to another man...all I can tell him when he finds out (because I will never tell) is that you reap what you sew! So yes I learned the hard way...Plus for a little extra bonus he gave me an STD! So If he is acting strange..investigate, investigate, investigate for your own sake!

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What a jerk! :mad: I'm sorry that happened to you.



To the OP, I would talk to him about it. I would get to the bottom of it.

Do you ask him who he is talking to?

Yeah just be honest about what it looks like... then ask him of you can answer! :)

Yea it's been rough Enigma.. devastating.. I can't believe either of them, she OMG I still have to deal with her for my brother's sake.. it's all so stupid.. what's wrong with someone just saying I don't love you anymore and going about their merry way? I mean seriously I though my marriage was fine and dandy.. and the sis-n-law was like my best friend.. I guess she was using the old... keep you friends close and your enemies closer huh? Oh well... I will be OK.. me and my son are moving on!

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Yea it's been rough Enigma.. devistating..I can't believe either of them, she OMG I still have to deal with her for my brother's sake..it's all so stupid..what's wrong with someone just saying I don't love you anymore and going about their merry way? I mean seriously I though my marriage was fine and dandy..and the sis-n-law was like my best friend..I guess she was using the old...keep you friends close and your enemies closer huh? Oh well...I will be ok..me and my son are moving on!

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Some times people just do what THEY feel is good for them... They don't think about others.

I'm glad that you and your son is moving on. After all, your son is top priority. In time your son will learn the truth and have no respect for him for what he did to you guys. But, your son WILL respect you for not tolerating that.

Be strong!

What are you doing, while he is on the phone 'for hours' with a person you do not know.

You haven't said how long this has been going on, how often, or is a regular, daily/nightly thing. Nor have you said if you have reason to think he's having an affair by not coming home on time, staying out late, Do you have any other clues as to why he would so obviously be hiding this anonymous person from you?

Have you said that you want to know who this anonymous person is?

While flushing the phone might temporarily feel good in retaliation, he'll just get another phone, and perhaps stop with the phone calls and meet up with this person at the Sleeze-Are-Us motel, if he isn't already.

I don't know how big an alarm bell has to sound, or how large a red flag has to be, to see that there is a problem here. My advice to you is to hire a private detective, get the facts, know what the truth is without guessing, and then decide what to do about it.

Anything else is not going to get to the truth.