I'm 24 and my bf's 26. He's had several partners before me but he was my first. I consider our sex life to be pretty healthy, and we both love trying out new things. My bf's usually pretty open to new positions, but whenever I talk to him about anal stimulation, he just doesn't want to hear it. Which is OK, I mean it's his body, but I've just been reading about how GOOD it can feel for a guy, and I'd love to be able to give him that kind of pleasure. He says he doesn't like the idea because he finds it dirty-as in, it's where s*** comes out from. He also says he doesn't necessarily link it to homosexuality, but he doesn't think one of his friends would do it either.

As I said, I don't want to and I won't put pressure on him. But do you think there's another approach I should try to make him more comfortable? Guys on the forum, do you do it? Do you like it? Did you have trouble 'accepting' it at the beginning?;)

If you are a female, why are you so fascinated with this one position. No position feels good if you don't want to do it. Leave him alone about this. He doesn't want to do it. Move on. He obviously has a common objection to this - he thinks that is for going to the bathroom. You would not want to do a position that you didn't like. Try positions that are not as disgusting for him. Either educate yourself or educate yourselves as a couple. He would probably receptive to something that interests him. Never ever push something that you alone are interested in doing on someone else. Try a romantic evening and explore or read up on other possibilitiesx

I'm fascinated by the possibility of giving him that much pleasure and that's all there is to it. I never ever pressured him into doing it-I simply asked him if he thought it might be something he'd enjoy.

The reason I'm still thinking about it is that well, before him going down on me for the first time, I also thought the idea was very disgusting. You never know unless you try. And he never did.

While different things float each person's boat, but not that many men will try it because of mind set.
Also while some ( and I don't believe it is that popular for men) do it, if he does not want to, just drop it.

It's great that you want to please him that much. But, as a guy, that's one area of my body that I don't want to be touched. Not even jokingly. I'll kick someone in the face if they even come close. He may be like me, it's just an area that a lot of guys want left alone.

Guys in general get pretty touchy about it... sort of the "I'm super straight so don't touch me there!"

Usually some of them aren't as secure in their masculinity as they think they are... personally... if it's a woman doing the touching.. you are still straight as an arrow. And just like women who refuse to let their man play around there... they are missing out on something. But it's their choice to miss out on. You have to respect his limits just as he has to respect yours.

I've been married nearly 2 decades... always been straight as an arrow... (Still am) but between my wife and myself... we really don't have any "Don't go there" issues between the two of us.

If he does not want to do it, stop bringing it up. I'm not understanding what the problem is. He has said he does not get into that kind of thing, respect that and drop it.