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  • Oct 20, 2010, 10:32 AM
    rebeccahstrean
    I'm taken and a 52 year old guy loves me and my dad lives with him...
    So when I lived in Arizona, I lived with my brother and I worked at Cliff Castle Casino for 2 1/2 years. So this guy would always come in and eat hardly ever talked to me. Then I had lost my job 01/09 cause of the lay off. So this guy worked for the tribe that was my casino... get what I'm saying I'm not good with words sometimes. Sorry! :(:(
    Anyway... So I lost my job, and then this guy found out. Well This guy came over to my brothers house when I was still living there and talked to my mom. And stuff. Well my brother kicked me out cause I didn't have a job even though I was looking for one that didn't matter. But anyway... So I stayed with my 2 closest friends and he got a whiff of that somehow and told me to come stay with him. So my friend and I did. I made sure he was with me at all times. My friend slept next to me and stood by the door when I took a shower or went to the restroom. So then I bailed my dad out of jail and my dad moved in with me and my friend went back to do whatever. Well I came here to WA state a little over a year ago. And This guy is calling me up telling me that he loves me and that he's maddly in love with me and he hates my boyfriend because he's not him. He's never met my boyfriend. So then he also says that I want to date everyone else but him it seems like.
    Now I've had this talk with him NUMEROUS TIMES ON NUMEROUS OCCASIONS.
    I tell him your 52 older than my own dad is. And he has a son that's a LITTLE younger than me. Hello is it just me? Am I wrong?
    Anyway... my boyfriend heard this last night and well he was mad which I Don't blame him. So I don't know what to do. He has my moms stuff and won't give it to me unless I go down there. My dad doesn't have a job so he can't send it to me. All I want is her things that I don't have which I should cause she left it to me and I WANT HIM TO LEAVE ME ALONE! This is my home and this is my life. Not there and not with him HELP PLEASE
  • Oct 20, 2010, 12:59 PM
    answerme_tender

    I would make sure your dad knows that you want your mothers things, and have him save those for you. Then I would change my phone number so this guy cannot have any type of contact. I would NOT give this new number to your father, just in case of the other guy getting it. I would use a pre-paid card on a pay phone to call him. If you still feel that you dad needs a contact number give him your boyfriends, that way if this other guy gets the number your boyfriend can deal with him since he gets so upset with you talking to him.
  • Oct 20, 2010, 01:16 PM
    rebeccahstrean
    Comment on answerme_tender's post
    I will do that:) Thanks so much.
  • Oct 21, 2010, 05:42 AM
    dhuber
    You first mistake was moving in with him but you probably know that. If someone 52 is interested in dating someone as young as you are this is perverted and wrong! You never let yourself get into a situation where you need to be guarded to be comfortable. Unfortunately you sort of created this mess but now you have look at the present. He is the one with the problem. Find a stable and normal place to live first. Then concentrate on stuff. You have only a limited number of choices regarding this but don't let him use them hostage. Nothing is that important. You can ask him to meet you at a public place or take him to small claims. But don't let that stuff put you in a dangerous situation. After that separate yourself from him as far as possible. Never put yourself in a situation again with a guy likee this. A guy has serious emotional problems when he wants to date someone younger than his children. There is something to be said if someone is threatened by women his age.
  • Oct 21, 2010, 05:43 AM
    dhuber
    Comment on dhuber's post
    Please see above for answer. Very important
  • Oct 25, 2010, 03:51 PM
    rebeccahstrean
    Comment on dhuber's post
    I will not put myself in that situation again. He hasn't called or anything since that day. My dad is coming up here to live with us when we move so yeah THX
  • Oct 25, 2010, 03:51 PM
    rebeccahstrean
    Comment on dhuber's post
    My dad is bringing that stuff out with him
  • Nov 11, 2010, 05:53 PM
    rebeccahstrean
    Comment on dhuber's post
    His son is 2 years younger than me... well its its youngest so but yeah thanks I stopped all communications with him

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