Ask Me Help Desk

Ask Me Help Desk (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/forum.php)
-   Teens (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/forumdisplay.php?f=327)
-   -   Appropriate age for marriage? (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/showthread.php?t=517740)

  • Oct 17, 2010, 11:49 PM
    gunace
    Appropriate age
    What is the appropriate age for a boy and girl for marriage if both are in true love?

    What is the appropriate age suitable for having sex?
  • Oct 18, 2010, 01:01 AM
    Curlyben
    When you're LEGAL.
  • Oct 18, 2010, 01:05 AM
    gunace
    Comment on Curlyben's post
    I'm 18 and my girl will be 16 in 2months.Is it legal?
  • Oct 18, 2010, 01:09 AM
    Curlyben
    Currently, NO.
    Here you go: Nepal age of consent - True Knowledge
  • Oct 18, 2010, 01:29 AM
    gunace
    Comment on Curlyben's post
    So she must be 18?
  • Oct 18, 2010, 04:19 AM
    ScottGem

    First please don't use the comments feature for follow-up. Use the Answer options instead.

    Did you check the link? But your question was " what is the appropriate age.." NO ONE should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are financially, physically and emotionally prepared to have a child. So are willing to be a father?
  • Oct 18, 2010, 06:23 AM
    FadedMaster
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    First please don't use the comments feature for followup. Use the Answer options instead.

    Did you check the link? But your question was " what is the appropriate age.." NO ONE should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are financially, physically and emotionally prepared to have a child. So are willing to be a father?

    Not only are you willing to be a father, but is she willing to be a mother? Being that she is only 16, I doubt that she is anywhere near capable of properly raising a child.
  • Oct 18, 2010, 09:46 PM
    gunace
    I love my...
    I love my girlfriend a lot and she do loves me dearly,It's been 2yrs... n when she chats with any other boy in Facebook or msn I feel really jealous.my mind becomes polluted because only that thing reminds me evrytime.I know she won't go with other boy neither she's flirty type but why am I so?
  • Oct 18, 2010, 11:08 PM
    411Help

    Stop being so clingy or you will lose her. It's as simple as that.

    You've been together for two years. From what you've posted, she hasn't given you a reason not to trust her. The foundation of any relationship is the amount of trust between each person, if you lose that, your house will crumble.
  • Oct 18, 2010, 11:12 PM
    gunace
    But still I feel jealousy of other boys who talks behind her
  • Oct 18, 2010, 11:16 PM
    gunace
    Doesn't clinging refer trust??
  • Oct 18, 2010, 11:20 PM
    Enigma1999
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by gunace View Post
    doesn't clinging refer trust????

    No.

    You don't want to be clingy. Clingy looks desperate, which is not a turn on. Confidence is a turn on.

    Also Gunace, in the end, people are going to do what they want to do. Whether you like it or not.

    Trust her.
  • Oct 18, 2010, 11:24 PM
    411Help

    Those feelings are temporary. But, what won't be temporary is, you losing her because you're being so insecure,

    TRUST HER.
  • Oct 18, 2010, 11:27 PM
    gunace
    I can't understand how am I insecure? I love her deeply,true heartedly and trust her too.The only reason I'm suspecting about myself is I think I get angry too fast and feel jealousy a lot
    ANY HELP PLEASE!!
  • Oct 18, 2010, 11:33 PM
    411Help

    Feeling one way is normal, acting on it is completely different.
  • Oct 18, 2010, 11:57 PM
    gunace
    Any way to encounter quick anger and jealousy??
    Some hints please
  • Oct 19, 2010, 12:04 AM
    411Help

    Perhaps you should find an outlet for your emotions...

    Jiu Jitsu
    Boxing
    Muay-thai
    Cross-fit

    I've benefited from all of it.
  • Oct 19, 2010, 12:16 AM
    Wondergirl

    Count slowly to ten.

    Write down three reasons she loves you.

    Write down three reasons you love her.

    Clean out and rearrange one drawer in your room.
  • Oct 19, 2010, 06:52 AM
    talaniman

    Think before you act or speak. Truthfully we all have those emotions in us, some more than others. We are humans, and have feelings, and that just the facts of the matter, so you are a normal human. The thing is, do we control what we do with those feelings, or do we let the feelings control us?

    Just because we are mad do we punch people? Of course not, because we as humans can think, and find better ways to express our angers and frustrations, and as a young adult, that's what you need to learn. The best way to deal with your own feelings. That's why I say do not act on your feelings with out careful thoughts, and its not easy because some of those feelings can be pretty strong, and powerful. The stronger the feeling, the longer you think about what to do with it. But as you grow you will learn, and it won't be so hard to control your feelings.

    Thats why we have a brain to think with before we let those feelings out. Relax, it's a learning process. And few get it right the first time, because it may take a while, months or years until you are fully in control of all your feelings.

  • All times are GMT -7. The time now is 12:09 AM.