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  • Oct 17, 2010, 05:13 PM
    lisa_ann
    How do I tell my fiancé my concerns about being used?
    My fiancé lives at my home 4 to 5 days out of the week. When the topic of moving in together comes up, he says he doesn't want to complicate things. Did I mention he doesn't pay for anything? I am a single mother of three and struggling while going to college. He see's what I am going through and doesn't do anything to help. He makes good money at his full time job and sells cars on the side, which he sells from my driveway. While stating my situation, I can see how bad it really is. Just need words of advice. Thanks for reading.
  • Oct 17, 2010, 05:22 PM
    talaniman

    Charge him for renting your driveway, or tell him to get lost. Some fiancé, and explain why he is allowed to freeload on your hard working time?
  • Oct 17, 2010, 05:27 PM
    Northwind_Dagas

    Explain to him that you have reservations about how you two will work together when you are married, when he does not help you at all now. Honestly, he is not treating you how someone who loves you should treat you. And the "don't want to complicate things" is what someone who does not want to get involved would say--not a fiancé.
  • Oct 17, 2010, 05:44 PM
    lisa_ann
    Comment on talaniman's post
    Wow, that comment has really made my day! Lol... Thank you very much for the advice.
  • Oct 17, 2010, 05:46 PM
    lisa_ann
    Comment on Northwind_Dagas's post
    You are definitely right. Sometimes it takes someone else pointing it out or confirming it, to make someone see more clearly. I appreciate your advice.
  • Oct 17, 2010, 06:40 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    If you can not just talk to him about things, you have worst problems.

    Next if he is there 4 or 5 nights, he is living there, he is using you from the sound of it. You need to be more direct and have talks and explain the issues.

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