Bf ends relationship after arguments, so how do I know when he's serious?
I have an awful temper and every 4-6 weeks in my long-distance relationship of 8 months, I get so needy, frustrated and unhappy, that I blow my top and my boyfriend (ex?) ends our relationship. He did this most recently a week ago and it has been hell for me. I had the best results from him and for myself while trying no contact, but I struggle to make it work. Chiefly, that's because I don't want to lose the chance of closure, because if this is really the end, it will hurt a lot and, being in my mid-30s (so I should be more mature and controlled, I know!) I am having trouble imagining the future without him. The distance means I need to be clear as plans for the future are not simple. Not sure if NC attempt is just my fooling myself he'll come back when I seem less needy or indeed if NC is too high-risk a strategy for a LDR across a 5-hour time difference, plagued with enough communication issues as is without my adding games and confusion. It's really affecting my health in the way described in 'What to expect' - eating, hygiene, job, self esteem and sleeping. The NC phase is killing me; I'm too old for these games and want to know for sure.