Currently this year I am 14 years old. Last year at the start of the school year, I met and feel in love with this girl. It's my first time liking someone a lot. I at first thought that I probably had this feeling because of puberty or something. So I did not care at first. But as time pass by, I became her friend, got to know her more and found that we had many things in common. I slowly find myself really liking her. One day I accidentally told some people that I like her. That's when it started to spread. The next day, I decided I should just confess to her straight up. However, I didn't have enough confidence to do so. I admit it, I'm a coward and asked a very close friend of mine to help me confess online. That was the biggest mistake I ever made. The girl I liked then said that she only regarded me like her brother which saddened me abit but she said she would still be my friend. However, I grew obsessed with her and I think I did a few things that made her feel uncomfortable. I regreted what I did after thinking about it for a night I sort of got over her. I decided to stop being obsessed with her as it would hurt both of us. It has been 2 months since my friend helped me confess to her and both of us nv spoke to each other. Also ever since I asked my friend to help me confess to her, I regretted not doing it myself. So the previous day I decided to tell her myself but I still did not have the confidence to tell her in person. So I sent her a messsage via Facebook telling her how I feel and also apologising for making her feel uncomfortable in any way. The next day which is today, she blocked me in both msn and Facebook. And I know she already read the message I sent to her. I don't know what to do right now. Currently, I am really hoping to be at least a friend to her. So any suggestions?

And sorry if my english isn't that good.

Everyone likes to know when someone likes them a lot. It doesn't matter how you tell them but try to do this on your own. As far as how they will react there is no right and wrong way to expect this to happen. It sounds like she is not interested in having a boyfriend. The old saying is there is plenty of fish in the sea. You will find someone else who will appreciate your feelings in them. Let her go if she is blocking you. Your continued interest won't change things. Find someone who will love your attention. Learn things from this experience that will help you in telling other girls your intentions.

Sorry it didn't work out for you young guy, but we all are awkward at our attempts at love at 14, and there is always a chance the object of our attention doesn't feel the same.

Her actions are clear, so you back off, and leave her alone, and turn your attentions elsewhere. Next time, find the courage to approach the object of your attractions honestly, and without the outside help. Its about talking, and getting comfortable first, one on one, than getting carried away by some new strong feelings you have. You can't just act on them without a plan of action that you think carefully about.

Take this as a lesson for any future actions you are thinking about, and do this the right way, and maybe you will have better results next time with the next attraction, and there will be a next attraction, if you get over this one, by leaving her alone for quite a while, and look around. No hurry, your experience is common at your age, and all us guys go through it after puberty. Hormones are raging within you.

Normal for a young new teen age guy.

Thanks for the replies. But, is there perhaps a chance to actually still be a friend of hers? She currently have problems with her schoolmates and I at least want to be her friend rather than actually making it worse for her.

When you are able to see her as just a friend, then you can be one. But until that time, just get your feelings under control, because you will always have a false hope that she will change her mind, and take you back. You will be always reminded of what you once had.

A friend with motives is NOT a friend. Good intentions are not always a recipe for good things to happen. Believe it or not, there will be plenty of time to let the emotional dust settle, and be friends. No hurry, its time to heal.

At this point she does not even want to be friends with you and your feelings for her are too raw.
Step back. Leave her alone. That is what is best for now.

Thanks for the advices. I guess I'll just leave her alone. I'll just have to keep myself occupied for awhile I guess.

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Originally Posted by Difference

Thanks for the advices. I guess I'll just leave her alone. I'll just have to keep myself occupied for awhile i guess.

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I think that is a smart thing to do.
You may find you are enjoying yourself and may even find there is another someone out there.

She is starting to talk to me a little bit now. I don't really want to get my hopes up, but at least she is not ignoring me anymore. Thanks for the advices.

Yes,I'm currently in an almost similar situation,but the best thing to do,which worked for me,would be to go talk to her about it,but after waiting for a few days,then go ask her if she at least wants to remain friends or not,or if she wanted you to leave her alone to let her think over it for a few days