My girlfriend broke up with me after moving to another city for college. We have dated for 10 years since we were 14, I'm super heart broken, when she left to school, I stopped caring for her because I had other issues in my life. I was depressed and I did not want her anymore and I stopped talking to her for a week or more and I went to some bar and got drunk then ended up at a strip club and these 2 girls gave me their numbers, long story short, 2 weeks after the club my girlfriend calls and says she misses me, and I feel bad and start missing her and wanting to be there for her, so I bought my plane ticket to visit her, we had a great week together to celebrate her birthday, 2 days before I left she found the 2 strippers number. And she absolutely despises those places. I had no plans on going to the club. I was just drunk and ended up there and came out with numbers. My plan was always to move to the city with her and live with her, but a tragedy occurred in my life and I had to stay home. Now she wants to move on, because this was my last strike. I know I can move on, but I do not want to. What can I do? Now I am willing to move to her asap. But I do not think she wants to.

Lay it all on the table for her. Tell her you didn't do anything with the strippers and you were depressed and go really drunk and went to a strip club. Tell her she is all that matters to you and you can't eat, sleep, and think straight without her in your life. Let her know exactly how you feel and don't let pride or anything else hold any of your emotions back. Because if she can't accept you after that. Then you have your answer on what to do.

You can move on... but you don't want too... well she will be the deciding factor on weather to keep persueing her for a relationship or not. I am sure you have explained your actions... but the fact of the matter is... she may not want to hear excuses. Maybe she wants to her she is all that matters to you and she wants to be #1 in your life. So make her feel like #1 if that's the way she makes you feel. If you're not #1 in her life then the relationship will never work out. Hope this helps.

Do you really want to be with her or are you just reacting to her rejection?

The reason I asked that is because you indicated that you stopped caring for her when she left for school. For you to stop caring about her isn't a normal reaction to someone who's dated someone for 10 years.

You also never once indicated that you love her... hmmmm!

I personally think you need to reevaluate this relationship and move on.

First of all, she was stupid for breaking up with you after 10 years, just because of the college, I mean, you could have moved to her place and you'd still be together. Then she missed you, and just because of those 2 girls that you didn't even call she wants to move on and blah blah blah. I think the truth is that she doesn't diserve you, you should move on. I would be upset if I saw the number of two strippers in my boyfriend's cellphone but I'd understand that he was suffering and trying to get over me at any cost. If she's uncapable to understand that you did that because you were DESPERATE, she doesn't diserve you.

Hey man my girlfriend broke up with me 4 days ago so ik what your going threw and I'm sorry for that man but I am not over her but here are a few things my friends said to me: all you have to do is forget about her eat some ice cream and listen to your happy songs (or without the ice cream either way you want) 2. u can also talk to your closest friends actually this is what I do I text some of my closest friends that are girls all of them helped me out 3. u can also get some friends to come over to hang out like have 5 of your friends to come over and chill at your house and some of my friends wanted to plan revenge so what ever you want you can also do the revenge part ;) lol