I think I can die already. I have nothing more to live for. Don't get me wrong. I'm single, in my mid-30s, and very successful. I think I've lived a full life already. I'm grateful for all the blessings I've received in this life, especially in terms of education and career. I've also done my part and worked very hard. I have no more dreams and goals as I have achieved all of them, plus a lot more. I also think I've made my parents proud, which is important to me. My only wish is to die a painless and instantaneous death. I'm not seriously contemplating suicide, but it's more like I don't care anymore. Of course, I'm open to being used in this life for whatever other purpose, though I really have no desire to go on. All of us are bound to die, but is it wrong to want it sooner than later?

Find new goals. Find new ways to seek happiness. Find purpose in your life.
Do you have children? That in itself is the greatest joy you'll ever feel.

And what about your very soul? An early, planned, death is against my God's will and law.

You're not finished yet.

Think, search, and inform yourself on other ways to make an impact on others, and help the ones who really need it.

The right purpose will find you a reason to live, and even thrive.

God bless you.

Yes of course, would it make your parents proud to see you dead in a casket.

If you get tired of old goals , you make new ones.

Have you really achieved everything you want in life already? Or have you achieved what you feel is enough to satisfy your parents?

Have you always been single? Are you happy being single?

If you have achieved everything you want for yourself what about what you can do for others? Giving something back can be very rewarding.

Sorry but I don't buy the idea that you have done all that you can and it is time to die. I have a friend I met at college when she was in her 80s and learning a new skill. She had had a successful life, had children, grandchildren, and greatgrandchildren but very wisely knew that there is always more to learn and more to try. And she was happy.

I'm really worried that you are actually quite depressed.

I think you have lost your path and purpose. You need to try and work out why. If you can't then I suggest you consult a counsellor.

Again, I'm not contemplating suicide. I know it's wrong. It's more like willingness to pass in this world.

I don't have children so I have no such responsibility. I don't intend to have children of my own unless I get married. But then again, I'm not really contemplating marriage. I'm happy being alone. Though I've had two relationships in the past.

Yes, I've achieved all I wanted in this life already. My soul is happy and contented. Sure, I can give back to others while I'm still here.

Of course, my parents will be sad when they see me dead if ever. But it's a fact of life. Everyone dies. I'm sure they'd be happy anyway, because I've lived a good life.

Thanks!

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Originally Posted by happymg

Of course, my parents will be sad when they see me dead if ever. But it's a fact of life. Everyone dies. I'm sure they'd be happy anyway, because I've lived a good life.

Thanks!

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Anyone who really loves and feels compassion understands that your last sentence just isn't right. Doesn't matter how long you have lived, or how good a life you made, the people you leave behind are always deeply hurt.
Your view on this is logical but devoid of emotion. This again makes me worry that you are depressed but don't realise it.

Where is the meaning in your life for the present and future? Where is the love that makes you want to stick around to continue to share a life with your parents in this world? What about other significant people in your life - relatives and friends?

Even without a great purpose to drive us forwards most of us find the day to day part of living, and our interactions with those we love, enough to keep us motivated. Taking an interest in and caring for the others in our lives fills up plenty of our time and energy.

I still urge you to consider counselling to explore why you feel this way.

Parents are not supposed to bury their children. Nothing you can say will make me realize that what you are contemplating makes any sense at all. Nothing.

Go live life to the fullest. Find joy and happiness somewhere.

I am sorry that you are struggling with having those feelings. My heart goes out to you. I think at some point a lot of people have felt like that but usually when everything is really bad but haven't heard about it when everything seems to be going right. You said that you have met all your goals, what about being a mentor to someone that hasn't met theirs. Get involved in something like the Big Brother/Big Sister program.

In answer to your question, no, it is not 'wrong' to want to die.

What is 'wrong' is thinking that death is a solution to a life that hasn't even reached the half way point of a normal lifespan, by ending it prematurely.

Reaching goals, and achieving things, are not a good indicator of a life that is balanced, or healthy. You can have all you want and need, and be satisfied with yourself and your achievements, but still feel like the lonliest person on the planet. What you possess, does not define you as a person, or more particularly, as a complete person.

That you have defined yourself as having reached all you have wanted to, and needed to, leaves out the enjoyment of it all. There is something missing when you work as hard as you have to be where you are today, and define your lack of the will to live, in terms of accomplishments. More specifically, those accomplishments have not made you happy.

Have you considered that there is a flip side to the 'things' you have. What gives you enjoyment. Do you think your life is balanced in other words, in that you can find say, beauty in nature, or spending simple times by yourself riding a bike, or hiking or even reading a book on a lazy day.

Do you have a social life, and friends that you spend time with?

I find it sad that you have the time to go from cold hard facts (ie accomplishments and things achieved), to a cold and final end.

Where is all the between stuff that really counts.

I too have felt this way, have you lost interest in things that used to please you? Are you able to see alternatives to help you not feel this way? It sounds like you really need someone to talk to. If I were you I would mention how you're feeling to your Doctor. Believe me there are literally thousands of people whom feel this way or have at one time.
I really do know how you feel, I also know the longer you leave it without talking to someone the worse it gets and it really isn't a nice place to be. So many people have gone through this that there are professionals who know exactly how to help you deal with it and get back to being your old self. Your Doctor should be able to refer you to one of these professionals, you don't want to find one on your own because just like everything else, there are people excellent at their job and ones that aren't. God Bless You & please go and talk to your Doctor, it does get better! :)