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  • Oct 8, 2010, 08:36 PM
    lynda84
    My ex called me. Should I return his call?
    I used to date my ex for eight years and we broke up since two years ago for curtain reasons. After broke up never contact each other anymore. Last night I got miscall from him and he leave voicemail for me to return his call.

    My question is why he called me? And should I return his call?
  • Oct 8, 2010, 08:47 PM
    talaniman

    Curiosity will kill the cat, so why should you? Go forward not back. Just saying.
  • Oct 9, 2010, 02:31 AM
    kaka67

    My ex and I got back together after two years apart.

    I am now a dead cat :(

    Don't do it!!
  • Oct 9, 2010, 04:31 AM
    Jake2008
    I don't know what kind of answer you expect.

    Without knowing what the reasons were for the breakup, who can say whether to call him back or not.

    If the problems involved him being a serial pedophile, or he was convicted of bank robbery, or he was a drug using bad tempered unemployed loser, or if he had a wife at the time, then I would say, no. Don't call him.

    However, if you ended the relationship because of distance, time, lack of interest, or incompatibility, then I would probably say, because time has passed, why not call and see what he's up to. It could be he's just letting you know that a party is birthday party is planned for a mutual friend. Who knows.

    Weigh your options, and choose the most responsible one.
  • Oct 9, 2010, 05:16 AM
    Devorameira

    Jake2008 is right - without some further details on your relationship and why it ended, it's next to impossible to give you any good advice about whether you should call him or not.
  • Oct 9, 2010, 05:22 AM
    redhed35

    Just to add to he good advice already given,

    Are you single?

    What could be the potential fall out from calling him back?
  • Oct 11, 2010, 01:03 AM
    lynda84
    Comment on Jake2008's post
    Thanks for the comments, actually we breakup because he fall in love with my best friend and they get marry a month after that. So I think there nothing to talk about anymore so we just ended the relationship.
  • Oct 11, 2010, 01:07 AM
    lynda84
    Comment on kaka67's post
    Thanks kaka67's, I thought the same...
  • Oct 11, 2010, 07:34 AM
    Shadowburn

    He fell in love with you best friend and married her a month later?
    And you seriously considering calling him back?

    No way.
  • Oct 11, 2010, 08:43 AM
    Devorameira

    Absolutely don't call him. He treated you poorly, so don't give him a chance to do it again.

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