I have been with 6 men in my sexual history. All 8 men have gone soft either right when they are trying to get inside me or during intercoarse. I hear I'm smoking hot all the time. And when they see me naked I hear.. Oh godyour sexy. So I feel confident in apperence but I feel since it happens every time I am doing something wrong. Im 35 divorced and ready to have some fantastic nights, but feeling like I'm cursed!

Maybe these guys are rushing you. Spend a little more time with foreplay. Let them use their hands and mouth more. Have you been in any long term relationships? Were all 6 {or 8} one time only sexual partners? I don't know, sounds like too much focus was on the sex and not enough on a meaningful relationship. If I'm in a relationship with someone, and things don't work the way I want them to, we keep trying and figure out eventually how to please each other.

Beachlover. Type o. 6 men only. Yes I have been married before for 10 years and I would say only 3 were short term flings. Lots of times I feel like the object and not given enough time on foreplay for my taste. I have been told on several occasion.. im very energetic and even in my marriage heard.. " sorry, your so wet and afraid I will not be satisfied." I have never said I wasn't satisfied. I am feeling very low about the next man.

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Originally Posted by kavanna

Beachlover. Type o. 6 men only. Yes I have been married before for 10 years and I would say only 3 were short term flings. Lots of times I feel like the object and not given enough time on foreplay for my taste. I have been told on several occasion..im very energetic and even in my marriage heard.." sorry, your so wet and afraid I will not be satisfied." I have never said I wasnt satisfied. I am feeling very low about the next man.

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Perhaps it's the men that you are with...

It's almost as if it's a race to orgasm. Things should be a lot slower than that. When you are in the act with someone , do you communicate to him what you like or want done to you? You should build it up for a while.

To me, the best part about making love is the four play. Looking into his eyes, kissing, caressing, touching, licking, sucking, so on and so forth.

You need to discuss what YOU want and like.

For exp. While he is going down on you, wait until you are really close, then tell him to stop, and kiss you. Build it up and go slower. Don't be afraid to tell him.

To me, intimacy is very personal and private. If people can't discuss sex with their partner, then they shouldn't be having sex.

As far as men going soft, it doesn't have anything to do with how you look. Just slow it down and build it back up again. Don't just rush for the sex.

Good luck.