I have been sexually active for well over 5 years now and I have never been able to reach orgasm. I feel like I have tried everything. I'm not ashamed of masturbating, but when I do it I will go on FOREVER without climax. It feels extremely pleasurable to me and I feel the build up and I can feel the climax RIGHT there, about to happen, but it never gets there! It's the same way with sex. My boyfriend is great, he tries to do everything he can to get me to climax, but it just never happens. He will go on for as long as he can and still... it's RIGHT there, but no climax. By the end of it I am just too exhausted, not to say the least for him, and we just give up. We know that trying too hard can be a problem and so every time we try to be as relaxed as possible and just enjoy each other, and we do, but it still doesn't work. Is there any advice anyone can give? Does anyone else have this kind of problem?

Orgasm for women is as natural for a man and as desirable, but it is never as certain. Usually, failure to achieve orgasm is due, above all, to social and psychogenic reasons.

Of the few causes are repugnace for sex, and prudery (Sexually repressive), psychological contribution as well as one of inadequate technique. However, despite of the cause, the one with the lesser need for sex is at risk for a sexual aversion.

This is: Instead of sex being an experience that they both enjoy together, sex becomes enjoyable only for the one with the greatest need. And it can become a nightmare for the other spouse. In all too many marriages, sacrifice leads to a sexual aversion, which, in turn, leads to no sex at all.

Therefore, women who cannot achieve orgasm need professional help. You should consult with your Physician to rule out some conditions such as Multiple sclerosis, pernicious anemia, and genetic causes, which may have the symptom Failure to Achieve Orgasm.

Hope this answers your question!

REFERENCE(S)

1. Dr. Harley, 2006. How to Overcome Sexual Aversion

You know... when u think about reaching orgasm the whole time while having sex... you actually can't get it... its like a mind trick... just let loose and just make crazy or passion love...

For women, it's all about concentration. You don't have to think about having an orgasm, but you have to want it. First, you need to know what an orgasm feels like by yourself before you can have your man please you. Now, when you masterbate, are you doing this internally or externally? I've never had an orgasm from the infamous "G-spot" but what gets me is the clitoris interaction. You might want to experiement with toys. My favorite is the magic bullet. Give that a go!!