My boyfriend's sexuality makes me uncomfortable. Should we break up?
Before I say anything, I just want to make it clear that I love my boyfriend so much and I have yet to meet anyone that I feel more compatible with. The only thing we're not compatible with is sex.
We've been together for a 3 years but we were best friends for 4 years before we officially got together. He had always been a bit pervy and I was quite happy with that since I was the same way. However, 2 years ago, we were discussing sex and he mentioned to me that he really liked watching BDSM porn (more specifically, pretty girls being victims). At first I was okay with it but then I watched some of it and felt really uncomfortable with it. I'm all for a bit a kink but this was too much for me.. In my head I kept thinking "is this what he fantasizes about when he thinks of me?". Now I just feel uncomfortable even talking about sex with him. It's so bad now that even if we're watching a movie together and sex comes up, I want to leave the room.
I told him how I felt but I still don't know how I should handle this.. I don't feel right telling him that he can't get off on it. I know of girls who do that to their boyfriends/spouses all the time and I hate it. I would love to go back to having a normal sex life but at the moment, there's so much tension that neither of us wants to have sex with each other at all. He just goes and watches more porn.. If that's what he likes then there's nothing I can do but either accept it or leave him. I really need some adivce here. I want this relationship to work so bad but the BDSM really crosses a lot of limits for me. I've asked advice before and all I got were people making me wrong for not being receptive to BDSM. :/