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  • Oct 5, 2010, 07:45 PM
    MIZZ.CASTANEDA
    Should I leave him or should I tell him how I feel?
    What should I do help? I really love my boyfriend but some of the times he is an azz hole.he tries to act funny by calling me names when he's with his cousin but when we alone he is a different person because he treats me like a princess... *** *** help me!!
  • Oct 5, 2010, 07:47 PM
    Enigma1999

    Have you told him how you feel? That it hurts you when he is acting like a show off in front of his cousin?
  • Oct 5, 2010, 07:52 PM
    JoeCanada76

    What kind of names? How old are you?
  • Oct 5, 2010, 08:12 PM
    MIZZ.CASTANEDA
    Comment on Jesushelper76's post
    Well he calls me bad words like the b,s,h words... oh im 16
    Comment on Enigma1999's post
    Na i haent told him nun... yes it really hurts me beause i feel that he doesn't love me
  • Oct 5, 2010, 09:15 PM
    MIZZ.CASTANEDA
    My boyfriend is my homegirls ex-boyfriend..
    Yesterday my homegirl bianca asked me if I was dating her ex boyfriend so I said no we just friends so I lied because yea we dating... shes like if you would ever date him that would be ****ed up and I was like why you still feel something for him and she stayed quiet so I guess she still feels something for him... damm what should I do I love him but she's my homegirl?. should I tell her the true and see how she reacts or should I keep it a secret?. should I leave him and be cool with her although I love him so much?. but today I tried to hoke her up with this boy named victor who asked her for her number and she gaved it to him... damm this is so confusing what should I do help me.
  • Oct 5, 2010, 11:03 PM
    joypulv
    Tell her the truth and say you didn't think she still felt anything for him. Ask her just what is she feeling. Don't mention the guy she gave her number to; that doesn't mean much about her feelings for her ex.
    Why hide stuff from your best friend? She'll find out anyway sooner or later.
  • Oct 6, 2010, 01:43 AM
    kaka67

    What's with the caps??

    Dump him. Pretty simple answer.

    If you let him speak to you like that, then your saying to him that its OK.

    Well its NOT!!

    16 or 36 its not OK. Respect yourself so that others can also respect you.
  • Oct 6, 2010, 04:16 AM
    MIZZ.CASTANEDA
    Comment on joypulv's post
    Thanks well today ima tell her the true at school oh well if we loss our friendship but I guess I do needto tell her... thanks for your help
    Comment on kaka67's post
    I guess I should even though I love him
  • Oct 6, 2010, 04:52 AM
    Cat1864

    Please do not use all caps. It is against site rules and can result in your post being deleted and/or your thread closed.

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/faq.ph...#faq_faq_rules

    You definitely need to talk to him and let him know how you feel. It is not okay for him to verbally abuse you to look more manly to his cousin or anyone else.

    If he doesn't stop after you tell how you feel, then you need to think about how his words and actions are not showing that he loves you no matter how much he says he does.

    Hopefully, he will decide that treating you thye way you deserve is better than trying to make points with his cousin. Good Luck.
  • Oct 6, 2010, 10:08 AM
    MIZZ.CASTANEDA
    Comment on Cat1864's post

    Yea you right ima talk to him an if he ont change his ways ima just say ITS OVER because I need someboy that loves me by being nice not a dum azz

    i feel dirty!!!!! what should i do?
    Yesterday my boyfriend was at my house an him and his cousin were talking about what girls they ha sleep with and my boyfriend told his cousin about the day we did it... I feel durty because if he told his cousin maybe he told some other people even though he said he has just told his cousin and that's it... should I beliee him or what? All I know that when his cousin lookes at me I can't face him because I feel maybe he thinks that I'm a easy girl but I'm not it was a thing that just happened... *** *** help me
  • Oct 6, 2010, 10:19 AM
    smoothy

    First off, leave him. If the boy (and he IS a boy emotionally) respected you at all he wouldn't be talking about what you do together to anyone else... period. Guys don't give play by play naratives to their BOYZ... about what they do with their girlfriends in bed if they are more than a booty call.

    I would NEVER talk to my friends about what I do with my wife... and I wouldn't even THINK about it, much less do it.
  • Oct 6, 2010, 11:14 AM
    MIZZ.CASTANEDA
    Comment on smoothy's post
    I guess I should haaaaa... but I love him and yea he needs to keep our privacy to himself... you look ike a good husband and that's good hope you good lock on you relationship.

    help me im between 2 walls not finding an exit
    Well today this boy named luis is ganna come to my house supposely to talk... but I got a boyfriend what if my boyfriend out of no were comes to my house with out telling me?? Damm I really love my boyfriend but I like luis I fell like I'm between 2 walls not finding the exit... oh help me... give me an advice... Somebody *** give me an advice!!
  • Oct 6, 2010, 09:30 PM
    martinizing2
    If you care for your BF tell the other one not to come over.

    Relationships should be based on honesty.
  • Oct 7, 2010, 08:33 AM
    martinizing2
    If he told his cousin with you there at the time,
    I would bet he would tell anybody who'll listen.

    What he did was disrespectful and inconsiderate at best.
    I suggest you take a close look at your relationship and give it an overall evaluation.


    Comment on smoothy's post
    Smoothy is right.
  • Oct 7, 2010, 09:02 AM
    MIZZ.CASTANEDA
    Comment on martinizing2's post
    Well yea I was there I even told him I imagine if you tolld your cousin maybe you told somebody else and he's like na babe I only told my cousin and that's it... I was like I guess what ever all I know is that you got a big mouth.
  • Oct 7, 2010, 09:14 AM
    smoothy

    I hope you realise he is lying to you. If he told his cousin... then he's already told others too. And how do you even begin to guess at what he tells others when you AREN'T there to hear it. I guarantee you if he talked like THAT in front of you... when you aren't there he wen't into details on how you moan, etc...

    Do you REALLY want his friends thinking about that every time they see you with him?

    Forgiving him or allowing that is exactly the same as accepting that treatment. I actually knew Escorts (nice name for a high class hooker) (were two longtime friends BEFORE I found out about it) who wouldn't tolerate that behaviour from a customer much less from anyone that claims to be a friend much less a boyfriend.

    Seriously... I hope you never let him take nude photos of you, and that you didn't give him any, because if you have he's been showing them around.

    I think you are better than how you are allowing yourself to be treated by him.

    And there are some things that can't be undone... and some actions that can't be forgiven. This is one of those.
  • Oct 7, 2010, 09:25 AM
    MIZZ.CASTANEDA
    Comment on smoothy's post
    So ima leave him and because you right... and hellz na I'm not ganna send him pics of me like that or let him take some
  • Oct 7, 2010, 09:47 AM
    smoothy

    Great... no woman should EVER allow someone to treat them like that.

    No man is THAT special.. or can't be replaced with someone who actually is. (The same goes for women too)

    A man would does that will also cheat... and do far worse.

    When you are dating people are on their best behaviour... people don't suddenly develop respect AFTER you get married... if anything people fall back to their natural behaviour. There isn't a person walking the earth that is so spectacular that you should subject yourself to being treated that poorly.

    Understand that I am not saying its OK to be a primadonna either... just that no person should spend 5 minutes with someone who isn't respectful towards them. Man or Woman alike. There is ALWAYS someone else out there who WILL give you that respect.
  • Oct 7, 2010, 09:56 AM
    MIZZ.CASTANEDA
    Comment on smoothy's post
    You are surely right I'm ganna leave him at the right moment he comes in my house to visit me... I hope I find a true guey that will really ove me and not treat me like he does... Thanks you have really opened my eyes...
  • Oct 7, 2010, 09:57 AM
    Fr_Chuck

    Please stop using the comment feature to reply, that is not what it is for. Next stop using slang or text language, that is also against the rules, it makes it harder to experts to read and understand what is being said.

    And of course how old are the two of you, 14 to 16 would be my guess but no older than high school, since he is bragging to people about who they have had sex with. Expect him to have told everyone, and maybe even exact details of it, ( or may make his self sound a lot better.

    Next remember no matter how much you "love" him, that does not take the pain and hurt away from the way he is treating you

    Fr Chuck Super Moderator

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