Ok well I have been with my girl for over 2 years and it seems like eveytime she tries to kiss me I do t want her to or even when she wants to get close I don't want her there. She says that she loves me about a million times while I'm around her as well as kisses me constantly to the point where I don't want her to even be near me.
Also whenever she says something I don't believe she means it and she has told me now that she is starting to worry if I don't love her.
I love her with all my heart is something that I have constantly questioned because I have cheated on her a number of times And also every single girlfiend I've been with in my life. But when I'm around my current girlfriend its lile sometimes I can't get enough of her and I love her so much.
Is it because I've cheated on her that I'm not able to grasp the concept of love that I'm trying to feel towards her
Please help this is pissin me off

You love her with all your heart but you cheat on her, can't stand being around her, and have to ask others if you love her? To me, that's not love at all. But I can't tell you how you feel, only you know. I do have to wonder though, if you say you love her, why aren't your actions matching your words?

Maybe your right, you have no clue about love, and don't need to be in a relationship, until you learn something's about how a healthy relationship goes. What do you think?

Do you think you have done so much bad, you don't know how to be good, or is it guilt that's making you a lousy partner??

Honestly, no holds bar. She is smothering you. You are a commitment phoebe, and you need to let her go. The longer you stay with her. The more hurt she is going to be.

Tell her you cheated on her several times. Tell her that you are to blame, that you have cheated on everybody else you have been with and end this relationship.

Wow, what a catch you are my friend. You push her away emotionally, you question your love for her, you cheat on her.

C'mon, it seems as if you have this person who loves you very much, and you are taking her for granted.

I think that you should just be alone for a while until you know in your heart you are ready to commit to her or any other woman.

You will only end up hurting her in the long run if you stay with her.

She deserves a man who will kiss her, hold her, be faithful to her.

Does she even have the slightest idea that you have cheated on her?

You don't love her with all of your heart. If you did, you wouldn't cheat. If you did, you would welcome her kisses and advances.

Do her a favor and let her go. Let her find someone who deserves her.

You all are a real help but the thing is she knows I've cheated on her, one of the *****es actually confronted her and told her that I cheated.
I honestly thought that that would end the relationship but it didn't. She forgave me and says that none of that old stuff doesn't matters to her anymore its all behind us

I can honestly say that she is the only person who I can be myself around. She makes me feel me feel importaint and happy
I think I love her because when you all told me to "let her go" I just couldn't graps the sense of being without her and it actually made me sad

Am I I ****ed up person or what eh? Hahaha
Can this relationship work? And any suggestions as to how I can put all this cheating buiness behind me?

Stand up and at least be man enough to tell her relationship is over. Then you need to work on improving yourself. You shouldn't need anyone around to build up yourself esteem. That comes from within yourself. You need to get some help on why you feel the need to cheat on someone. Ask yourself why you think its okay. In most of our society, its not something to be patting yourself on the back for. But that's up to you to take step to get help.
Until you get that help, stop using someone else. Make sure she understands that she deserves someone who will not only show, but feel love for her. Do not let her have any hope that there is any real relationship here.
Good luck with improving yourself, its hard, but it can be done if you want it bad enough!!

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Originally Posted by Dontjudgeme4oh3

You all are a real help but the thing is she knows ive cheated on her, one of the *****es actually confronted her and told her that i cheated.
I honestly thought that that would end the relationship but it didnt. She forgave me and says that none of that old stuff dosent matters to her anymore its all behind us

I can honestly say that she is the only person who i can be myself around. She makes me feel me feel importaint and happy
I think i love her because when you all told me to "let her go" i just couldnt graps the sense of being without her and it actually made me sad

Am i i ****ed up person or what eh? Hahaha
Can this relationship work? And any suggestions as to how i can put all this cheating buiness behind me?

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I am with Jesushelper on this. I too don't find you to be funny.

You are hurting her and that's not fair for her. I think it's more of a control issue with you. I believe that you were all upset of the thought of losing her, because you want to have your cake and eat it too. You have the best of both worlds, you get to be with her, when convenient for you, then you get to cheat. Hmmmmm

What I really want to stress here is the cheating factor. So if I could just have a minute of your time, good.

I just watched the Today show, (which it doesn't seem as if you familiarize yourself with the news) and 70 to 80% of people don't wear protection, which means that HIV has skyrocketed more than ever before. NOW, I don't know if you protect yourself when you have these secret rondevues. I do, however, know that it would be quite unfair if you were to contract something and pass it to your girlfriend. What do you think?

Also, I commend the person who told her you were cheating.

You need to think real long and hard about this. This is a human being you are toying with, who clearly derserves better than you.

Pass her in my direction, I know plenty of nice single men who are looking for that special someone to treat right.

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Originally Posted by Dontjudgeme4oh3

You all are a real help but the thing is she knows ive cheated on her, one of the *****es actually confronted her and told her that i cheated.
I honestly thought that that would end the relationship but it didnt. She forgave me and says that none of that old stuff dosent matters to her anymore its all behind us

I can honestly say that she is the only person who i can be myself around. She makes me feel me feel importaint and happy
I think i love her because when you all told me to "let her go" i just couldnt graps the sense of being without her and it actually made me sad

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This is pretty telling to me. She lets you do whatever you want and you walk around feeling like a true man.

I think the fact is you know you are a pretty horrible boyfriend and you get joy out of yielding this power over her. You don't break up with her because you want someone to walk all over.

It's sad really, and I think the saddest part is you. You have some misguided notion of what love is and you seem to think what you are doing is acceptable. I feel sorry for you. What you are doing isn't cool. When guys cheat, it isn't the girls they cheat, it is themselves - out of a girl who truly cares about them.

While your girlfriend may be smothering you, it is probably due to her awful self esteem knowing she has a boyfriend who fools around constantly. So, while she seeks validation from you, you seek validation from having sex with random girls all the while walking all over her.

Pretty pathetic way to live in my opinion. Get help sir, as you don't know what love really is.

A part of loving someone is putting their needs before yours. It is wanting the best for that person. Therefore, you do NOT love her. You don't even love yourself.

You are feeding your ego with women, whom you are using and hurting by playing with their emotions. Sex will not fill the empty space inside you. You do not respect yourself, so you cannot even begin to be able to respect others.

I agree that you need to be alone and try falling in love with yourself.