My mother in law is manipulative, ignorant, selfish, and a cry-baby who pities herself and asks her children to pity her as well. She has no real relationship with them because the know she's manipulative and selfishly evil and only care about what everytone else things... she tries to lie about their lifestyle or EVERYTHING for that matter just to look better. She'll even talk about her brothers and sisters who own a family business just to sound like she's a part of it. Everyone occasionally gets together for holidays but she insists that my husband visit his grandparents with our son so they can see him. She counts the weeks. She makes him feel guilty for not going there, but she somehow never asks us to her house. Ever, the only time since our 5 month old was born we have gone there I innitiated the get-together (at her house) and said we should have a barbecue... my husband did the cooking, and she did the controlling of what everyone did. My son had to sit next to her, she insisted on feeding him, even burping him and wouldn't let me insisting that I needed to eat! Good thing the baby puked on her... she doesn't know how my son likes to be burped, he's just a baby I'd like to keep his food IN HIS STOMACH for pete's sake. But no, and she commented on how she then had to change her shirt. Boo-hoo, honestly. Going to the grandparents house is different... She has to invite herself there when we decide to go there... every time... and they never ever offer us food... never cook for us, at all! Maybe water is all we get and we could be visiting for 3 hours or more befcuase my mother in law will call to ask us to wait so she could see "her grandson". My husband got mad at me because I wasn't feeling well and wanted to go home, but since his mom was coming he was trying to say I could go home and he'd bring the baby home later... how dare he! We had 2 separate cars because he had met us there after work, but honestly now, how do you not talk to your wife about things you decided to do with a 3 mmonth old... I was still heavily breastfeeding and he doesn't even consider the baby had to sleep in a strange place wake up and eat, and was getting fussy again all for my mother in law to come over pick him up out of my arms and literally leave the room so I'm sitting there with my husband, and his grandparents... wondering where the hell she went with my son. There are a few reasons I don't trust her with my son. As she couldn't even take care of her own children (single mom with my husband as the oldest of 3 and 2 younger daughters both of which over 19, divorced and their father passed when they were younger after the divorce)... she would pawn them off on her parents or daycare or sports... made it look like she had money by needing a house and nice clothes and other bs but not helping her son take care of thousands of dollars of bills which I would later come time find out has ruined his credit for the next 10 years or more... as I had to clean it up when we got married because (since my husband was gone for basic training in the army before we got married, and I was pregnant atthis time) she did not trust me with his bills and insisted again on paying them... all of which she didn't but since he and I shared a bank account insisted I give her money so she could pay for his car... mind you, she said I should get an abortion to my husband, that how could she be a grandmother if he couldn't be a father,. he's just a little boy (in a condascending tone) was very bitter and jealous that I wanted to take care of him and she could no longer control every aspect of his miserable life she created for him... she never once in any letter she wrote asked him about us being pregnant or the baby... she even told him I never tried to talk to her and that I refused to let her know if he got paid... I not only gave her over a thousand dollars, but I tried on many many occasions (by text as we couldn't just talk on the phone she tried to be as distant from me as possible since she either figured my son was not her son's kid, or I'd leave him before the baby came, or he'd be a deadbeat dad and not be there for us... I tried to even ask one day if I could refer to her as her first name and not Ms. ****** as she chose to end her texts asking if my husband got paid yet as his bills were due soon, blah blah... she asked "how are you feeling" which sounded more like a shrink would ask their patient... I'll tell you how I'm feeling, like you're crazy and I need to keep me and my unborn child away from your crazy ***. Ugh! She said so many horrible things about my being pregnant and didn't offer even a friend in her, she even was jealous of my husband and I moving back with my parents for help while my husband was away (my family is wonderful and have helped up through many many issues while his family just ignored my husbands problems as if he was such a burden and they were finished with him a long time ago., until I had our son... then all of a sudden they demand timw with him and my husband... she could care less if I came and says maybe I need to let him do whatever he wants with our baby because I might help him get back what he lost with his father! Talk about guilt trip. Saying his father was wonderful and this and that and she let him take my husband everywhere and anywhere ANYTIME he wanted, just seems like a joke... because he left them... blatantly, and she blames some sort of mental issue but speaks of this in the most strange terms I've ever heard of in my life. I'm so done with all of these lies. She doesn't encourage him to be a good husband, she more wants him to be HER husband. She takes my son and hands him off to people for them to hold him as if he is hers, and pretends in front of everyone that she cares but the only time she's called me, since last year, was to relay a message to my husband to call her... or if she made a double message to him and myself about going to "grandmas for dinner as family will be getting together and I'm sure they would like to see the baby". I've 'told my husband she is making him feelguilty and alone but she has no friends, expects her kids to do everything and anything fir her exactly when she acts or she basically acts like she no longer loves them... she even stopped my sister in law from talking to me and visiting us because she was jealous my parents were there (it's their house) but she never ever invited us over to her house. She needs to know everyone's business and then she tells it to the whole family, well it starts with the grandmother then everyone finds out. Did I mention she almost never responds to anything I have ever said to herl... especially when I kindly and maturely confronted the many issues from the name thing all the way to why she thought it was her place to tell anyone I should have an abortion or why she took the baby moments after I had him out of my husbands arms before me or my mom had a chance to hold him, if she was really just looking to see if my son looked like her son. She failed poorly as a parent as all of her children have a lot of issues, one even ran away to another state to live with her boyfriend to get away from the mom as she told me. I cannot deal with this woman getting my husband to be a horrible husband to me. He treats me like I'm his mother... and it's looking like he more needed someone to take care of him as his mother didn't so he found those qualities in me... so now he's acting more like my son, and lying to me, being verbally abusive and going out with his friends until 4am on occasion without ever extending an invite to me even if my mom will baby sit. My mother in law put a guilt trip on us all as why I won't let her watch my son. I think she needs to get a life and like hell I'm going to let a strange woman, whom never tried to get to know me or earn my trust, to leave my innocent child with... that would be out of the question completely. My mother and father are not only great in-laws but they are friends with my husband and he trusts them more than he does his own family. As soon as his mother gives him a guilt trip, then we are fighting (he and I) and all in front of my parents... my family cannot stand this woman! I have given an ultimatum but he acts as though I never said anything about it, he has chosen to make his mother happy and has not stuck up for me as his wife, as a mother that is damn good to her son, or as a person with my own life and beliefs, and I'm tired of the useless fighting when I've lost. I don't know how to go further as my husband and I are trying to move to a different state and he does not appreciate the fact that I'm trying to have a family with him, and start a new life... but I will not go if my husband continues to treat me as insignificantly as he does because of his mother. He even tells me when I get mad about these things that I'm acting like his mother, and I'm so blown away by this that I get even more angry. I say, I only have one son. You are my husband. You need to cut the cord from your mother if you want a good relationship with me. You never even had a relationship with her but all of a sudden we get married and have a baby and it's like you are trying to run away from me like I'm holding you hostage and your mother is all of a sudden trying to control everything you do and think about me, money, jobs, our relationship, our son... what do I do, I'm ready to file for divorce and keep this evil manipulative woman away from my son legally so that he doesn't get messed up like she did her own children!