I am 25yrs old and have NEVER gotten off during floor play or sex and I was wondering why that is and what I can do to fix it? Thanks...

Hello Melissa,

Do you ever have an orgasm by self stimulation (masturbation)?

Have you ever had an orgasm from oral?

How long have you been with your partner?

Do you two ever use any toys?

I have only been with 3 guys in my life and my first turned out to be a real man whore and not even he could get me off. My 2nd could never get me off. The guy I'm w now we have been together for 5 months now. He's great at oral and no haven't use toy

How will I even know if I'm having an orgasm? I'm not turned on easily either. I feel so young and dumb...

How do you know when your having one? Never had one prob woudnt even know it if and when if ever I do.. :(

So you have never given yourself an orgasm?

You mentioned that your boyfriend is good at oral, has he given you one that way?

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Thank you.

Sorry about the 20 questions

Enigma 1999 as to your question as to has my boyfriend giving me an orgasm during oral I don't know for sure. I feels amazing though most of the time...

Enigma1999... like I said I wouldn't know if I was having an orgasm even if it hit me and the face so ta speak. Thank you very much for your advice though... as to Cat1864... sorry for the inconvience with the whole taking up so much room I am new at this... sorry...

What does "it feels amazing" mean?

Have you ever read a description of an orgasm, what it's supposed to feel like? (There are all kinds, by the way.)

I have not read anything about orgasms... and I don't really know how to explain the whole feeling amazing. Can it feel great w out have an orgasm or getting off?

Melissa,

I know you are new here, but one of the rules in Adult Sexuality is that you type in full words and sentences--no chat speak.

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Sounds like you are getting some good advice, though! Keep asking your questions--everyone here is glad to help.

If you had an orgasm, you would definitely know it. The next time you are romantic with your boyfriend, spend a lot more time just kissing and cuddling before he goes for the sexual areas. Make sure you are very comfortable and in a romantic setting. {back seat doesn't count} Candles, incense, ets. Most women can't orgasm just by intercourse, so don't expect that. If he takes his time, spends a lot of time stimulating you, and above all make sure he doesn't ask you "did you come yet?" That will kill the mood and then you won't . And also touching yourself in the right spot should always work as long as your boyfriend is not rushing you and is still participating by touching you and kissing you at the same time. When you do orgasm, it is a very similar feeling that he gets when he orgasms. You will feel like everything is letting go, and then there will be a strong sense of relaxation after that. The difference is, some women can climax again in a few minutes, most men can't. The intensity of an orgasm van very from one woman to another.. Some women describe their orgasm as a roller coaster climbing that first big hill then going over the top, and your stomach drops out as you make that huge drop. Others have many smaller orgasms throughout the lovemaking. To achieve this, you may need some practice. Try masturbating {in private}, and you will achieve it. Your fingers and a sex toy {vibrator} usually works. Just remember the average time it takes a woman to orgasm by masturbating ia around 5 minutes or less. The average time during sex {oral, fingers, intercourse} is over 20 minutes.

And by the way, you asked if it could still feel great without reaching an orgasm. Absolutely. When you're with the right person, everything you do to each other feels "amazing".

Melissa,

I think every one gave you great advice.

I just want to add, that you should practice masturbation. Finding what you like and what feels good for you. You can practice it in the shower or at night in your bed.

The only way I found out what pleases me, was by me doing it to myself. That way I know how to manage them, and share with my partner how and where to touch and when to stop and when to start.

Is that something that you are comfortable with?