I feel like my ex is running me in circles, help?
My ex-boyfriend of two years and I broke up about a year ago because he became a devout christian and didn't think we were on the same life path. He wanted to stop doing things we had done in the past and literally broke the news to me in one day and wanted the changes to happen over-night. I am a christian however I would not call myself a religious fanatic or obsessed with religion. The break up was rough but at the time it was necessary.
Every 3-4 days I would get a phone call telling me to come over or to hang out or that he missed me, and I was always around. We would continue to hang out like boyfriend and girlfriend but whenever I would ask if we were back together the answer was always no, or "not yet" or "not right now." I continued to hang out with him in hopes that he would see we were good together. Every time we would hang out he would tell me he didn't think I was "equally-yoked" in religion as him, or that I needed to change my life goals to be with him. Let me reiterate that I am not somebody who has bad morals or somebody who NEEDS any life - changing to begin with.
After months of doing this, I caught him talking to another girl. I swore to never speak to him again and then he came running back to me. We got back together for about 3 weeks, and then he met another girl and broke up with me again. He always comes back about a week after telling me he doesn't think we can date saying how much he misses me and that if we can just get on the same page we can get back together. He always, however, lets me know that he is still soul searching and doesn't know exactly what he wants. He tells me he wants to be with me, but needs to make sure I am the right person for him and that we are spiritually connected.
I found out recently, that he was pursuing another female at the same time that he was telling me he loved me. I too started dating (very casually) another guy, because I was told to move on. It wasn't until recently he told me him and this other female hooked up while him and I had been "working things out" during one of our many "working things out" periods. I feel very strung along like I'm wasting my life waiting for this man to come to his senses and finally commit. Whenever he says he wants me back it always ends with "but I dont want to jump into a relationship, we need to work things out and make sure we can get back together." I love him and I know what we had when we actually had something was great but this just sucks now. Any advice?
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Thanks for responding Enigma1999. I rewrote the question with an explanition in "I have been going in circles with my ex boyfriend for a year now." Let me know if you check it out, it is above this one. Thank you!
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