My boyfriend babymomma hates me. And because of that she tells my boyfriend that he can't see if child. She tells him that if he wants to see he child he would have to come to her house are meet her at her mothers.When she does come to me and my boyfriends house just cause we live togather she tries to fight me and start fusses. Most of the time I ignore he cause to me she's just ignorent, common and probably even jealous of the fact that I'm younger THEN HER and her babydaddy wants to be with me.I don't understand she just starts talking to me rude at even given time she's around me, and for no apparent reaon.She bluts out things like you a little girl, Why you with this grown man?and silly **** like that.She even told my boyfriend that if he kept sleeping with me I would give him a disesase. My boyfriend just tell me to ignor her, But I'm like to seconds away from beating her *** like a man? What should I do, Should I keep ignoring her are considering giving her an *** kicking she's really needs. Cause my boyfriend has told me that she pulled all that same bull**** on all his other ex-girlfriends and they ended up brecking up with him over her. But I'm from the old school I would whip her *** and ask questions later. But really how should I handle this?I'm 20 yrs old,my boyfriend is 29 and the babymomma is 27

Does your boyfriend pay child support? If he's been to court, he should have a visitation order which allows him to see the child on specified days and times. Unless he has a serious criminal record, those days and times should be his time (without the ex). If he isn't getting his time, then he needs to see an attorney.

Don't start a physical fight with the ex. It won't help anything, but could prevent him from having the child around you in the future.

How old is the child?

Old school is acting like a lady and excusing yourself from being around her if she is intent on causing drama. If you control yourself, you will be showing that though you may be younger, you are a mature adult. You might be surprised how good it can feel to hold your head up high and know that you handled yourself with dignity instead of resorting to actions that could end up with you in jail and sued. Possibly him too. Even if all he did was attempt to break up a fight.

Your boyfriend knows how she is and has allowed her to be the ruin of other relationships. The problem is him too.
As long as he is paying child support, she should not be able to dictate certain things to him. If he is really interested in keeping the peace, tell him to visit the baby at his mother's house.
If you're talking about fighting her you are behaving just like she is, drama queen. That is tacky.
This drama has gone on with all of his girl friends, maybe he ought to get his life in order before he tries to have a relationship. This is too much drama. I hope he's worth it!

Honey she's just jealous, keep your cool don't go to jail, but... He also has to step up to the plate if he truly loves you, he needs to set ground rules also, does he pay child support? If he does and he's not on supervision visits he has every right to have her every other weekend, you'll love bonding with the child, the problem is because you guys are happy the child will go home and brag about you, my daughter is going through the same thing. But its reversed now, she has a new boyfriend and the boys want to be with him and my daughter. Threaten to go revise the visits and child support ;)

GRRREEEAT ANSWER ABOVE THAT WOULD GIVE HER A GREAT EXCUSE FOR THE CHILD TO NEVER BE AROUND YOU,O JUST TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND LET HER PUSH THE BUTTONS, REMEMBER YOU LOVE HIM, BLOW YOUR STEAM WHEN SHE LEAVES.

I am not sure the baby momma's could not be right, if you feel or think that beating someone ( physcial harm) is the adult and right way to deal with a problem, then the baby does not need to be around you. That is not how real grown adult people act or should act.

The issue is, visits is with the baby not with the mamma, so he needs to go to court, get court ordered times that he picks the child up and has the child with him for his visits, be that a evening, or for a weekend or a week in the summer.

Then he takes the child home at the end of the visit

Too many problems. Let your boyfriend handle this, and the best thing for you to do is stay out of the way. Don't fight her, that will only make matters worse for everybody, especially your boyfriend. Just remove yourself when she is around, and eventually she will grow tired of putting you down. She only does it because she knows it sets you off, so don't play her game.

Boy friend may get a bang over all of this drama, otherwise he'd do something about it. This mess really does not have to happen, it is allowed to happen.

Your boyfriend isn't handling his business and that's why he has problems, and that's why his girlfriend have left, and no doubt, so will you, so don't do something immature and stupid.

The other exes obviously told him to handle his business the right way, and he didn't, and still hasn't, so why are you still there?

My boy doesn't pay child support. But anythink she ask for the baby she gives it to her. But I know she spents the money on herself cause a day or two later shed act like the baby is in need of something else.the baby is three years old

Well I know she wrong. And I even ask her if you think I'm so much of a little girl why do you come over her and stoop to my level.she had no answer but kept hollin crazy stuff

My boyfriend doest pay child support. I feel like this would be the best thing for him though the child is three.when the baby momma come over to our house and she's me there she gets mad at my boyfriend and start holler at him about me.She always started conflicts with me when ever possible. She rushed in my house to try to fight me one day because she was mad because I was there. The girl is crazy

My boyfriend isn't on child support because he takes care of his son. What ever the child needs he gets it. Plus the baby momma won't place him on child support. I believe the baby isn't even his. They don't look alike they not share the same name and my boyfriend is light skin,the child is dark and the baby momma is brown light brown o don't get it. The baby don't have the same name as my boyfriend are his momma.the **** just weird

Also know his babymomma doesn't want to put him on child support. My only answer is that it maybe because the baby isn't his.because at birth she didn't name the baby after my boyfriend there first and last names are different.

I know shess wrong

Your boyfriend needs to stop playing games and get a court order for child support and visitation. Child support covers all the costs associated with raising a child not just 'when the baby needs something'. It covers electricity, water, food, medical costs, clothing, diapers, etc. Everyday expenses. With a court order she cannot keep the child away from him.

You need to stay out of it and let him handle his business.

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And call the cops if she causes trouble at YOUR house.

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Agreed!

Your boy friend is either peeing on you and telling you it's rain or he is just plain weak.
He needs to establish paternity and pay support ordered by the court, babies need more than a thing or two hear and there and this way he can be sure of visitation rights.
Is this your house she is coming up in and starting mess, if so call the cops if she does this again, but your boy friend needs to handle his business. Put is foot down in his house and put this lady in her place.
As far as the complexion of the baby, that means nothing. My parents are brown my siblings are brown and I am light. I'm very much my mother's and father's child. Two light people can also have a dark child. It's all in the genes. If there was a light or dark person in the mix somewhere, it will come out. Genes don't lie and they sure can't hide.

How long do you plan to put up with this drama. I hope dude is worth it.

OP enjoys the drama - several examples and here's one: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ml#post2550941