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  • Sep 26, 2010, 07:57 PM
    Disneyfan12
    Why is my dad still treatinging me like a baby?
    Im sixteen and he don't want me to have a labtop,a flatscrean TV, I can't text on my phone I still get timed on the comuter for 30minets ever sense I was 8. I can't go on Twitter or Facebook or nothing like that. Being sixteen is just another year of being treated like a baby. Why does he do that? I'm so mad because at my party when I was reading my cards everyone looks at my nefue and yells aww so they can't hear me so I just didn't read a card I am so mad. I want to be treated like a sixteen girl but what should I do I really try to show it and act like a sixteen girl but please give me advice. :)
  • Sep 27, 2010, 03:16 AM
    martinizing2
    Being a dad I think I can shed some light on this for you.

    My youngest daughter is 35. A very successful single parent of two great boys, owns an extremely nice home, travels all over the world with my grandsons and has been responsible and mature since she was 7.

    I still see her as a little girl. She will always be my little girl , along with her two older sisters who also are living great lives.

    But a father always thinks he knows what is best for his kids. They will be a huge pain in the butt and keep you from doing a lot you want to do, and should be able to do when you act responsibly and mature.
    But... and this is a big but... they act this way because they love you and want what is best for you. At least what they think is best and is often far from it.

    I still do it. I try not to. I am learning to let go... and they are all at least twice your age.

    Hopefully your dad will learn faster than I.

    But you keep showing him that you are responsible and mature.
    Try to have calm talks about what you want to do with your life.
    Remind him you love him, you respect his wisdom and advice, but you are no longer a child.
    You are a young lady and need to be given the chance to to be yourself.

    This is how my girls got my attention.

    I wish you well.
  • Sep 27, 2010, 01:21 PM
    cdad

    Texting has become a pandemic scurge on the young these days. Its out of control at this point and needs to be reined in. So try not to let that bug you too much. As far as a laptop goes and since your 16 you can get a job and earn your way into one. Many of us from the "older" generation didn't have any of those things growing up. So we don't see the need for you (younger generation) to have one either. It's a perspective thing. Also earning your way to something is much more rewarding then having it handed to you on a platter. And maybe that is your compromise. Ask if its OK that you get a job and so long as you keep your grades up "you" would like to buy one. It might help with homework etc. And you will certainly need one for college. I know its hard to understand why things are. But sometimes its best to accept and learn to deal with what you have. Happy Birthday.
  • Sep 28, 2010, 05:31 AM
    Devorameira

    You'll always be Daddy's girl and yes, he'll always want to protect you.

    I know that right now you're feeling confined by his control and concern, but someday you'll really appreciate it.

    I'm 60 years old and my Daddy still worries about everything I do.
  • Sep 28, 2010, 05:57 AM
    martinizing2
    Comment on Devorameira's post
    I hear he worries because you still are a bit wild Dev...

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