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  • Sep 26, 2010, 10:26 AM
    arian29
    Making her to miss me..
    We are dating for like 3 weeks now.. she is/was my best friend until last month when we decided to date and see if things work out. I really love her. She said she needs time.. for the proposal of course. Now the thing is , it all seems to be just cool.. I mean I don't feel she misses me, or needs me, I can see she like me but seems she's confused if she loves me, she is addicted to me though.. maybe because I am always there when she needs me.. always call her (daily), message her, whenever I get a message or miss call from her I call back almost instantly. So I am in constant touch everyday which I think is probably not giving her room to miss me and if she won't miss me she won't know if she loves me :))... so I need help with the missing part.. should I reduce calls and message.. won't it be something that she may not like.. well am confused..
  • Sep 26, 2010, 10:38 AM
    Enigma1999

    Just remember one thing, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

    I think that you are making yourself too avialable. You should back off and let her initiate more.

    She said it herself. She needs time. Let her have it.

    For now.
  • Sep 26, 2010, 12:13 PM
    Cat1864

    Were you acting like this before you started dating?

    Be yourself, the person that she became friends with and chose to go out with.

    Needing someone to need and miss you shows your own insecurities. Do things outside the relationship that help you feel good about you and it will show in a stronger, healthier relationship.

    A tip for a healthy relationship: have interests outside the relationship so that you are a well-balanced individual and less clingy partner.
  • Sep 26, 2010, 12:43 PM
    Homegirl 50

    I think for your own sanity you need to stop the incessant communication. The girl either likes you or she doesn't. You seem to be the one that is needy.

    Do other things apart from her. Things will work out as they are meant to.
  • Sep 27, 2010, 12:50 AM
    arian29
    I am ceasing on calling her.. also will message her only in reply... ill call her only like once or twice a week.. hope it gives her enough space.. :)
  • Sep 27, 2010, 07:04 AM
    Homegirl 50

    That sounds reasonable

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