My son has a 4 year old daughter with an ex-girlfriend. He pays court ordered child support and keeps medical insurance on his daughter. His ex-girlfriend will not let him see his daughter or take her anywhere unless he takes his ex-girlfriend with him. He is engaged to be married and has a daughter with his soon to be wife. This has made his ex mad. She tries to control his life, will not let him see his daughter unless he does what she wants. He has refused to live his life by her standards so she is trying to get him to sign his rights away. He has heard this from her even before the child was born. He really doesn't want to drag his daughter through a court battle. What should he do?

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Originally Posted by murtdoll

He really doesn't want to drag his daughter through a court battle. What should he do?

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Hello murt:

Of course he doesn't. But his four year old daughter won't be dragged into court. His ex girlfriend will.

The only way he's going to be able to maintain his relationship with his daughter is if the court forces the mother to let him. He should be quick about it. They grow up very fast.

excon

Excon is completely right, the girl is normally not even in court, she is basically too young to testify at this point and courts don't want children in them to distrub them.

So if the child is there, she will have to be with someone outside the court room anyway. ( most likely)

But this court issue is just a continuing of the separation agreement and the child support agreements, when one party does not follow the rules,
( I will assume there is listed days of visitation, if not there needs to be)

So on the 1 and 3 weekends and on so and on week at christmas and in so and so week in the summer he gets the child, Have the court spell it out specificly.

And if she does not allow it, you talk her back to court and back to court.

Please understand it is not uncommom to end up back in court ever year or two till the children are 18 over some issue from one side or the other.

It's not so much a case of dragging his daughter through a court battle. At age 4 it'll hardly impact her. But he needs to take the mother to court to get an order of visitation established since she won't let him see her otherwise. Having a judge spell out the terms of visitation just may put a damper on the mother's controlling tendencies.