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  • Sep 24, 2010, 07:02 AM
    Georgie20
    Relationship problems
    I've just had a baby and my relationship is falling apart. Since being pregnant my partner and me have done nothing but ague. We were really good together but now it just feels as though he's not supporting me. Im doing everything, I don't feel loved anymore! Help me please
  • Sep 24, 2010, 08:26 AM
    beachloverjohn
    Your husband may also be feeling unloved, or ignored. You have a new baby, and of course you are showering that baby with so much love and nurturing, your husband may be feeling neglected. Try making him the center of attention for a little while. A few kisses, hugs, but most important some quality{not quanity} time together. Communication and intimacy are key in keeping the two of you connected.
  • Sep 24, 2010, 08:56 AM
    talaniman

    Must be your first one because all females need time to heal from childbirth, and they hate their husbands, and quiet as its kept, we husbands have to heal, and adjust also. Give this time, and keep your doctor informed about everything you are going through.

    How old are you both??
  • Oct 6, 2010, 06:36 PM
    crys27
    I know what you mean. My husband and I used to fight ALL the time after we started having kids. The top three reasons for divorce are Money, Sex, and Kids. You need to be a little more specific, what kind of arguments? Are they about the baby, money, sex, or is it just every little thing you can fight about? Because you can solve your own problem by figuring out what the problem really is? For instance, my husband and I always fought about the girls, and one day I sat him down and we came up with a plan of how we were going to raise them and assigned jobs when it came to them. He fixes there plates and cleans up after dinner while I get them in the tub and brush teeth. WE put them to bed and share household chores. Once you have children, you become a team. When one cannot do this, the other does it, or you both just stick to your own jobs in the home. If it is about money, sit down and budget. It could also just be the stress of a new little person in the home. LONG nights and days and little sleep put a lot of stress on a person and a couple. Maybe day night would be good along with some counseling. Get a sitter every Friday or every other. We do it once a month, when permitted. Hope this helps, good luck sweetie!
  • Oct 6, 2010, 06:50 PM
    Homegirl 50

    You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to talaniman again.

    Pregnancy and childbirth puts a strain on many relationships.
    Hormones are all over the place, each one worried about the responsibility you're about to take on. It is a stressful time.
    After the baby is born you are really a mess until your hormones settle.
    Give it time. Talk to each other. Don't argue, talk and listen. Enjoy the baby together, what you had before will come back

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