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  • Sep 19, 2010, 08:57 AM
    MoiMoi
    I have feelings for my friend..
    I met this guy when I was clubbing before. I think he's really cute, we've never met up. Only the time I met him when we were out. I met him about 2 months ago but then never really made anything of it. Recently we have been texting. These are some of the messages;
    After I had asked what he was up to that night...

    Him: Stuffing my face! Need to keep my belly growing. I don't drive but I've had lessons.
    Him: :) xxx
    Me: Sounds good. You just need a dvd and me to top it off! Aha I just couldn't resist such a line ;P x
    Him: Haha of course.. You and a dvd would top it off nicely :) yazzyfizzle pulling out the lines. Are you trying to seduce me miss fizzle? :) xx
    Me: Aha is it working? :p Bw I love the miss fizzle! x

    But then he didn't text back... I get a text the next day appologising and saying his batt had died. And asking what I was up to.

    Me:Oh that's OK :) I did feel a bit rejected.. Sob. Lol. Im good thanks. Just finished work. Watching corrie, on catch up, my wild lifestyle. How's you my JLO? Lol x
    Me:?
    Him: Love a bit of corrie. Im good yazzyfizzle. What you up to tonight? Xx
    Me: Supposed to be going out. Can't be arsed. You? x
    Him: Supposed to be going out. Can't be arsed either. Sooo How's the lofe life? x
    Me: Im single so I suppose that's a down hill start to a good love life! Lol Yours? x
    Him: Lol.. Im single too. Best way to be. Relationships are to complicated :) tomorrow we are going camden... was looking forward to seeing you again. :( xx
    Him: We can always meet up another time? Come round for pizza and a movie? :) xx
    Me: Yea thatd be nice :) x
    Him: :) x

    He text me again later that night. We had a quick conversation but then I said I was off to sleep.

    So does that seem like he likes me?! Because I really don't know? And I don't think I'm showing signs that I like him...
    I think it seems more friendly as this is exactly the way I chat to my friends!



    I have a 'friends' relationship with this boy. But I actually really like him and fancy him. He flirts with me... but that's what all our friends are like girls and guys all flirt with each other in a jokey friends way. So its hard to show him I like him as more than a friend...
    What can I do?
  • Sep 22, 2010, 06:33 AM
    Devorameira

    You could tell him you're interested, but be prepared to possibly lose him as a friend if he doesn't feel the same way about you.

    Why not just leave things as they are and see if anything naturally develops or not?
  • Sep 22, 2010, 09:41 AM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    Lol.. Im single too. Best way to be. Relationships are to complicated tomorrow we are going camden... was looking forward to seeing you again.
    Do nothing just keep enjoying being friends and see where it leads as you get to know each other better. Then I think you will have a better feel for your own feelings as you get more comfortable with each other. Sure he likes you as a friend for now, but don't get so carried away so fast by friendly flirting.

    What's the all fired hurry??
  • Oct 16, 2010, 10:55 PM
    KoolAide187
    Well I'm going to go against what these guys are saying about this one. I usually agree with them 100% but I have a different feel on this one. This guy is already giving you a flirty nick name. He can say he doesn't want a relationship all he wants. That is his defense. I do the same stuff this guy is doing. I do agree with talaniman that you shouldn't be in any hurry right now but at the same time I can understand wanting to be. The best thing for this guy is to just flirt a little here and there... don't lay it on too thick to scare him away but just enough to let him know and see if he responds well to that.

    Once you know how he feels see if he wants to hang out. This guy is probably not looking for a relationship but at the same time he is open to the idea if he happens to feel something for somebody. That is the way I am towards women. My saying is: "I am not looking for anything serious but if it happens to get serious than who am I to try and change fate." That's not a bad way to look at it either. He is probably doing the same. So I am sure this guy will probably want to hang out but take it slow... he most likely is interested in you. Good Luck with whatever you do.
  • Oct 17, 2010, 07:02 AM
    talaniman

    Talaniman Rule-Never put all your eggs in a stranger’s basket. Save some for your own basket.

    Talaniman Rule- Give yourself 6 months of dating and getting to know someone, before you decide together to be DATING EXCLUSIVELY, and having fun getting to know each other.

    Talaniman Rule- Don't play games with your heart, and don't let somebody else play games with it either.

    Talaniman Rule- Doesn't matter how intense the feelings, or how much fun you have, never give your heart to someone you don't know well, and that’s only after the lust has worn off for you both.
  • Oct 17, 2010, 09:07 AM
    Homegirl 50

    Take it slow. Enjoy the "getting to know you" process. That is really what this is. Flirting and getting to know you.

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