Mother claims abuse but has no evidence, should we be worried about losing our visits
So back in 2002 - 2006 my fiancé (who was not in my life at the time) went through some issues with meth. In 2007 he got himself clean and turned his life around. He and I got together in early 2007 and moved in together. The living situation became, He and I and my 2 daughters (6 months and 6 years) and his youngest son (3.5 years) every other weekend. He also has an older son that due to his drug use he was not allowed to see (not court ordered mother just refused to bring him around). After getting his life together he requested to be able to see his oldest son. The mother refused and then notified us that she was moving to KY because her job was making her. They went to court and a custody agreement was reached.
She continued to be difficult to deal with but we did finally get to visit with our oldest son. Fast forward 3 years to last Christmas break... Our son has always had issues with hoarding food, I believe it is because his mother placed him on a special diet for his ADHD/weight and he was on his own, she still ate whatever she wanted but required the 8 year old to measure his portions. This past Christmas we found in one of his dresser drawers a mountain of candy wrappers and when confronted he lied to us about it. We called his mother after we grounded him for lying. She accused my fiancé of forcing their son to admit to something that he hadn't done. She then called the police and told them that my fiancé was high on meth and had sex toys lying around the house with our 4 young children at home. Police came talked to our son, told my fiancé sorry for the inconvience that this type of thing happened all the time with ex's who couldn't get along.
She failed to tell us (we found out when we were served w/papers) that she had already had him seeing a therapist for hoarding issues. He was supposed to arrive at the start of summer vacation and the day before he was to fly out we called to talk to him and were informed that her state of KY (we are in CA) had taken emergency jurisdidction due to severe abuse that he has suffered in my fiancés care. Only the oldest, everyone else is treated just fine. She waited 6 month to file any sort of charges/allegations with the court and we haven't been allowed to speak to him since May. We are now going through court to decide which state gets jusrisdiction.
My real question is, she has no evidence, no police reports, no nothing. By her own admission she has contacted CPS in CA and they told her there is no case and they will not investigate. Can we lose our son without any real evidence other than her word? She tells us he is terrified of us and wants nothing to do with us, yet he has NEVER behaved that way in our presence.
I am just so scared.
