My parents lived in a common law relationshiop. My father is with a new woman who I like very much. Unfortnately my mom hates her. I have three other siblings I am the middle child. We have two separate houses and two separate sets of rules. The things we get at my dad house stay there. Last christmas we got I pods and they had to be left there. We understood. This past christmas my mom told me to take the ipods home because they were ours. We got cell phones. My dad found out I took (stole) the ipods and insisted that we give them back. My mom would not let us. He took back the cell phones. My step mom got angry and said that she was disappointed in my mothers actions. She said that my mom overstepped her boundaries buy telling me it was okay to steal. We went home and told our mother. She will not let us see or speak to our father for the past 9mos. She says she is protecting us. He has a court order that states we are to go to his house every 2nd weekend. Please help what can I do . I knew it was wrong to steal, but my mom said she was proud of me. My mom is very controlling

Just a suggestion:

I think you should keep the two sepperate, i.e follow your fathers rules when at his and follow your mothers when at hers

Don't listen to your mother when she suggests what to do when at your fathers or with the things he gets you and vice versa for what your father says to do when at your mothers.

It seems from what you've said that your mother is just trying to have a go at your father and is using you and your siblings to do so, so if it feels wrong, don't do it and let them sort out their own issues.

I'm sorry to be harsh, but both of your parents need to grow up and stop using their children as pawns. Any gifts you are given are YOURS and should not have strings attached. Your stepmother is the only one who sounds like she is dealing with things somewhat maturely. Your mother did overstep the bounds by telling you to take the items since there was an agreement to keep them at the house they were given at.
Your mother is also in the wrong by prohibiting your father from having his visitation. She is mad at him so in trying to get back at him you kids are suffering as well.
How old are all of you? Can you not pick up the phone, send him an e-mail?
It will be easier once you are older and are in a better position to take more action on your own. For now, try to talk with your mother and let her know you are disappointed in not being able to see your father and that since she is going against a court order, she can end up in trouble because of it. Let both of your parents know you no longer want to be in the middle of their issues. If you have grandparents or aunts and uncles who might be able to help out, contact them.

Sorry that you are caught up in the dispute between your mom and dad, which shows them both in a bad light. Stay out of it, and let them deal with their own issues, but know they both love you, in there own way.

How old are you, and your siblings, so I can be more age specific with my advice.