Ok so me and my x boyfriend are best friends, and we flirted shamelessly ( he more so than me) before we went out. We liked each other for months and he finally asked me out but he broke up with me after a week saying he didn't feel anything when he pecked me on the lips at a football game. He's flirting with me again and acting like he likes me, but then again he's a very flirtatious person, how do I tell if he really likes me when he constantly flirts with me, and acts like it but then tells my friends when theyask that he only likes me as a friend? I really want him back I just don't have any idea what to do.

Flirting or no flirting, he told you in no uncertain terms he didn't feel anything when he tried to kiss you. Please believe him and don't let him involve you in silly games.

You do nothing, and don't take his flirting seriously, and you move beyond him to other, more important options, and opportunities.

He's already told you that he feels nothing for you, so back away quickly and don't be flirting with him!

Coming from someone who ignored the idea of not feeling anything special when I kissed someone—I'd take that seriously. From my experience, that's one of the easiest ways to tell if there's the deeper connection. I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for four years, and I don't feel that spark and I never have. And after spending all this time with her, it's finally one of the main things that is making me question our relationship.

So, unless my experience has been unique, I'd recommend saving yourself the pain down the road and avoiding a relationship with him if he's not feeling the connection. Even if you do get together, you couldn't be sure that he'd ever be able to develop that connection with you.

And a lot of guys just flirt because it boosts their confidence. Flirting with a girl who responds well is like checking the temperature of the water. If they respond well, you know you *could* have a chance, but you may not necessarily be interested in taking them up on that offer. Some guys need the constant reassurance, and have fun seeing the confirmation all the time. So I don't want to sound harsh, but I wouldn't read too deeply into flirting, other than an easier way for you to test the waters yourself by seeing how far someone will go if you return the flirting.